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4th question

QUESTION: HOW CAN SOMEONE COPE WITH THE FEELING AFTER BEING BLAMED FOR SOMETHING YOU NEVER DID (BACK-STABBED BY FRIENDS)? 

ANSWER:

Blame.

It is just a simple five letter word with simple meaning. 

But it's impact is what you never in your life want to experience it. Never.

Two years ago, i was blamed for having feelings or proposing my best friend's crush.

That blame would have never hurt if it was not applied by my best friend from grade 2.

The Blaming part was one thing, but the behavior that i was treated afterwards just got my trust from the word friendship, broken.

She broke her friendship with me because of a false blame on me of the thing i never did.

Me, being very emotional self, still said sorry ignoring my self respect and tried persuading her to believe me. But what she did was unexpectable, i never thought that she would do the things that i know my that friend would never do. But, i guess she just wasn't my that friend now. She was changed.

After crying for a week almost and begging for sorry for the thing i never did just to mend my friendship with her, she told me that we can be friends but not the way we used to be.

Me, being my naïve self, didn't thought about what her intentions were.

She used me.

She emotionally blackmailed me.

She broke me.

She mentally abused and bullied me.

I just kept quiet and let her do all those things just of the fear of not having any friends and being lonely.

I was in depression because of the words that were told to me.

She with other girls in our group would insult me and if i would ever speak up on anything i would have been emotionally blackmailed in saying sorry when i was the one who was degraded.

I was in a toxic friendship for 10 months.

I don't know if it was God's wish for me to get new friends or what.

A group asked me why was i not speaking up for when i was insulted.

Maybe they observed but didn't ignore.

Because everyone should have observed the way of treatment but nobody tried to ask me if i was okay? Or why was i not doing something?

I decided to share about what happened with both of them.

They were the ones who told me, made me understand my worth.

It was me, who was special for even trying to mend my friendship that i thought was real, when the others had already given it up.

They told me if it was a true friendship it would have never broken.

Because true relations don't need any point or timing or any REASON to be broken, they are so strong that even after fights, arguments they stay stronger and don't fall apart.

That day i, myself went and broke my toxic friendship that i thought was real and which the others had already given up. I left all ties with them.

I never let any of those from that day insult me or bully me. I became cold with them.

I ignored them and showed that they meant nothing to me.

Because if i would i meant something for any of them then i wouldn't have been given up. But i was.

I moved on.

I made a new wonderful bond with those the group. We still are unbreakable. Our group has expanded and become more close.

I think i found my true friends.

It was very difficult to see my old group laughing about things here and there but i am very happy to have being moved on, to have share my feelings, problems with someone, be it was a stranger.

Try sharing what you feel, maybe you would find the solution from someone that you have never known about.

Read motivational things or try searching true friendship.

You can see if they are your real friends or not by just the way i saw.

SEE. FIGHTS , ARGUMENTS happens in every friendships and relationships, but if they are strong they would never break or fall apart but come out more stronger than before. But if that friendship is broken on just one reason then just know that you were not special enough for them to see was truth was.

Don't waste your time on friendship like these.

If they don't see the importance or memories that you guys had until now but just the reason for why they want to break their friendship then just move on.

MOVE ON FROM THAT FRIENDSHIP IS IT IS TOXIC.

See what way they treat you when u talk to them.

It would be difficult, very difficult but you will be happy to be out of something the other side had already given up.

If they are your real friends they would come back to you, no-matter what.

But don't keep waiting maybe they aren't real friends. Move on.

Make them realize what they did.

READ, LISTEN TO MUSIC, WATCH MOVIES OR TALK WITH A STRANGER WITHOUT FEELING A DANGER.

DO WHAT YOU FEEL RELAXMENT IN.

TALK TO THAT SOMEONE WITH WHOM YOU THINK THERE IS ALWAYS A SMILE ON YOUR FACE WHEN YOU TALK TO THEM.

*Hope my experience made you realize that you are really special and worthy, if people don't see it then let them be, they are just jealous of you. THEY JUST NEEDED A REASON TO BREAK THE RELATION. DON'T CRY ON THEM BECAUSE MAYBE THEY HAVE ALREADY GIVEN UP ON YOU. MOVE ON. FIND HAPPINESS.*