you are not that different

Femalefetish

"Taboo! Talk about what you don't talk about. Welcome to Taboo. My name is Sophie. A few years ago I saw a documentary in which a prostitute had a client who was into sleeping with women. So he really slipped into the role of a lover and let her take him in her arms, caress him and even give him a blowjob. Yes, and among other things at the end, she then also always slept with him.

And somehow it got so stuck in my head that I felt such a crazy curiosity about the subject. I always wanted to learn more about this tendency, but sex with women is just really a taboo subject and unfortunately not so many want to talk about it. Understandable somehow.

But today is the day. I'm about to meet Anton and he loves to sleep with women. Of course I want to know in which situations he is together with women? Does he really sleep with them? Are they normal women, like the ones you want to marry, or do they look different? And how far is sex linked to his love life?

Hello Anton, I'm very glad you're here."

"Hi, I'm glad to be here."

"Tell me, you describe yourself as h - e - t - e - r - o - s - e - x - u - a - l"

She drags out the last word as if she were talking to someone hard of hearing.

"What exactly does that mean?"

"Well, I'm a man and I am heterosexual, which means that I'm sexually attracted to women."

Ok, of course you have to put up with a question like that if you're a diaper fetishist. I'm quite serious about that. Especially if, like Anton in the interview, you call yourself a diaperlover. A technical term, so to speak, that probably doesn't mean much to most people.

But the answer is interesting. In reality, Anton did say that he is sexually attracted to diapers. But if you rephrase it as if Anton were an ordinary, heterosexual man, then it becomes clear what is happening in our heads: Namely, the conversation would already be over here. It is not unusual that a man likes women. But diapers? You simply have to learn more about it.

But why, in the case of the heterosexual man who likes to sleep with women, do we not want to know anything more? After all, the answer to the question of why a heterosexual man likes women is also completely unanswered. The fact that we have to, because otherwise we would not reproduce and as a result would die out, is not an answer. And if you find it sufficient as an answer, then I answer you as a diaper fetishist simply also that I must, that I must love diapers. Because that's exactly what we have in common: neither is a choice we made. It just is.

Also, possible questions about the details of the preference, what exactly is so attractive there, is also a mystery in the case of women. Especially when it comes to the sexual act itself, if you take a step back, you have to wonder why our sexual organs can turn us on so much. Soberly considered, they are quite ugly.

So what is the difference between the sexual attraction of a diaper and that of another person? Could it not be that the mechanism in us that generates the feeling of sexual affection is one and the same in both cases, that it only seeks a different target in each case?

If we rephrase Sophie's question, which now follows, accordingly again, then this view is supported:

"If I now say you have a woman fetish, would that be an insult for you or could you live with it?"

"No, that would actually be quite accurate."

Ok, let me please clarify right away that I am in no way trying to turn women into mere sexual objects here. Again, I merely followed my experiment and stubbornly reworded the question, which was of course about a diaper fetish.

And that is precisely why this radical formulation makes clear the point I am concerned with here. Obviously, there is a mechanism in us humans that can attract us to something in a very specific way, namely in a sexual way. And this mechanism works so well that the human species is still not extinct. Because with a brain as complex as ours, with the ability to be self-aware and all the side effects that go with it, the formation of desires and dreams, the conscious experience of shame, anger and hatred, the constant questioning of all these feelings, it takes something strong enough to reliably bring us together again and again in a very intimate way so that we can produce offspring. Or to put it more simply: Would mankind with these cognitive abilities exist today if we had no desire for each other?

That a human being does not merely feels lust for exactly one other human being, which would also inevitably have led to our extinction, this mechanism must be as flexible as possible. Its search pattern must be fuzzily formulated, so to speak. And now and then it can happen that a human being does not choose another human being but an object.

Whereby the formulation explicitly does not imply that this search happens consciously. On the contrary: something in us searches and determines itself and we have no influence on what we like and what we don't like. With eight billion people by now, it is then statistically very likely that there will be the strangest search results: Man or woman, latex and leather, feet, no sex at all, or even diapers. In this sense, the formulation of having a female fetish doesn't seem so wrong to me. But let's see what happens next.