The Dating App

The Talking Stage

The talking stage is one of the hardest part of being on a dating site, eto yung inuna ko dahil karamihan satin eh never lumampas dito kumbaga sa laro nasa level 1 ka lang di ka na nakaangat. So ano-ano nga ba ang isa sa mga rason kung bakit never kang nakaangat sa talking stage? Sa tagal kong nasa dating apps napansin ko na may kanya kanya na tayong judgement agad sa mga nakakamatch natin. Aminin mo nagsaswipe ka pa nga lang hinuhusgahan mo na agad sila kahit hindi mo pa nababasa yung bio? Of course we have our own preferences at di ko naman itatanggi yon dahil kahit ako sa sarili ko mataas din standard ko palyado nga lang pumili kaya sa panahon ngayon sobrang hirap na sumabay sa preference ng isang tao lalo na kung marami kayong differences.

Kagaya nalang nung first experience ko sa isang dating app! Di ko babanggitin kasi di to sponsored pero ano bubuyog to kamag-anak ni jabee! Tatawagin ko tong reason na to as bilib sa sarili o BSS.

" The BSS "

Ito yung confident na confident ka sa skills at talino mo at feeling mo marami ka namang idea sa mga hobbies at mga gusto mong bagay at confident ka naman na kapag nag start ka ng topic eh makakasabay ka dun sa kausap mo.

I was making the best profile nilagay ko yung course ko, org ko sa school even my sidelines and works kumbaga pa-impres lang ganon para diba kasi kung feeling mo di ka maganda bawi ka nalang sa talent at talino. Edi ayon na nga ghorl! Pak! Perfect! Nagawa ko na yung profile ko tapos swipe swipe lang ako then may naka-match ako, di ko sasabihin kung saang school mahirap na pero kung nababasa mo to ngayon Hi! Shoutout sayo!

So ayon so our conversation went from hi-hello to did you knows and trivias. He was really into my course to the point that I can't keep up.

Non-Verbatim

Him: Hi

Me: Hello

Him: So, what are your interests, for starters ehehhe mine's anime. I might keyboard smash when it comes to that hahahaha

Him: we can talk about socio political issues if you're into that lmao social science student aq

Him: Oh you want to create films?

Me: Yes, it's actually my course in college.

Him: That's nice! I really love films! Can I give you idea on your future creations?

Edi ayon ako naman si bakla g lang ng g kasi omg eto na ata yon moment! Kasi dami naming similarities! So marami-rami na kaming genre na napag-uusapan until.

Him: ohhhh i see i see. speaking of horror, a thought just passed my mind, have u ever tried using a horror/myth film to debunked something!

Me: I haven't but would you like to share? [ TBH pota by this time di na talaga ako makasabay kaya pasensya na talaga kung mababasa mo to hahahaha ]

So yung idea niya is about debunking kapres he actually suggested for me to fact check this one and I actually did and it's really a nice idea for a plot di ko na sasabihin kasi baka may kumuha ng idea ko ses! Anyway so ayon. Until we transfered to telegram kasi wala lang bakit ba! Ichichika ko rin yan later sa ibang parts neto so ayon nga marami-rami kaming napag-uusapan even anime but we suddenly stopped talking. He was actually helpful pero I'm really intimidated kaya minsan ang gagawin ko oo okaya hihindi nalang ako okaya magbubukas ako ng bagong topic. Medyo bilib din kasi talaga ako sa sarili ko kaya sinasabayan ko siya. Siguro kaya rin hindi kami nag-click but we could've been friends! For real since we vibe especially when it comes to anime.

So I've remembered this qoute that I've always seen "No matter how good you are at something there will always be a million who is better than you but continue doing what you love because there's no one better at making you who you are." That's why everytime I'm talking to someone on any types of dating app I'm never dating to impress anymore. Never impress a person because if they will like you they will like you. You don't have to do what they do.