In an aro state

The first chapter: daily experiences

Note!!
I'm not speaking for every single aromantic
Person, as every person is different.
These are all just my experiences i had in my 18 years of existence, that i wanted to share to the world- whether you are questioning yourself or if you are just curious! :)
But without any further let's step right in! ^·^
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There would be cases where, celebrities that usually MANY MANY people would crush on, you would just want to be their friend!
you wouldn't imagine yourself going on a date with them, or marrying them. Instead you would imagine going on adventures with them, teasing them every now and then, what's it like getting high with them and so on.
you would also want to know everything about them, not only their backstory but...just the way how their mind works. What's makes them happy, what makes them mad or get angry. You would either crave getting an emotional bond with them, as if you want them to be your twin flame. Or you just wanna be friends with them! its either these 2 and NEVERRR in between.

You would find yourself zoning out whenever someone talks about relationships (sometimes that is)
Cause, as an Aromantic the things that always sticks to your mind is food, music, sleep, school (maybe?) and your best friends. So if anyone combines the word 'relationship' along with your name? You would stop paying attention and may just play Smashmouth's Allstar in your head. You may also scoff because it's annoying how some people put emphasis on romantic relationships, but that could just be a me thing.

You would also find yourself longing for a Queer-platonic relationship, also known as a qpr for short.
QPR are committed intimate relationship that is neither romantic or (necessarily) sexual by nature. You would either want to have one with either your best friend, your favourite fictional character or a dead celebrity (or your favourite celebrity mines just happened to be dead-)
Its the closest thing to have a normal typical relationship, its even dubbed as 'Aro dating'
You would want to spend your whole life with them. You would find yourself doing some house hunting so you can make up scenarios of both of you guys living together. Or you have a conversation of what their favourite car is and you would imagine racing with them.
But....lucky for me i am in one! My first QPR :)

Being in a QPR is pretty great!! its like having a partner who like your best friend at the same time. The funny part is, you would get to confuse people as many would think y'all in a typical romantic relationship. You would feel safe around them, following  them whatever and whenever. The best part is talking about the future with them. If they talk about getting a golden retriever or staying in places like Japan, then it's great! Cause you just got yourself a whole bunch of scenarios to imagine yourself with them. Whether it be before you sleep or during history class. Your heart would melt if you see they tell people about you and a sense of pride pops up when you tell others about them. And thankfully you got them to kick all the perverts ass who try to flirt with you online. It's great! Its the greatest in the world (and that ain't even the tip of it, there's SOOOO much more)

Although the only issue you may deal with being a qpr, is the fear of them leaving. You would be finding yourself crying at the thought or the fake scenario of it happening, because it's a platonic relationship that offers a lot less of things found in an Romantic one. Sometimes you would just lie in your bed, with the street lights illuminating in your room and simply wondering:

"How long would it take them to leave?"
"Are they happy? Do they want to leave"
"Am i their first choice?"
"Will they push me away to put more effort in a romantic relationship?"

but of course. This could be a me thing. Or my insecurities. Or both.

But one important note i would love to make. Not every Aromantic person wishes for a QPR. Some actually prefer to not have one so please, if you do get in contact with an Aromantic person please don't assume They want one

The idea of coming out too your parents is something you don't want to go through. Not only would it be frustrating explaining them a concept that they never heard before and think it's probably not real, but they will hit you up with this cliche saying

"Its a phase you would grow out of it"

And they will carry on their lives still convinced that you will fall in love and get married-

You would have that urge to create a new song, story or movie featuring any aromantic character. Cause its very rare finding an aromantic character (But! There is a few such as saiki! Great anime btw, 10/10. I recommend watching it). Because it would be refreshing seeing a character that for once doesn't have a love interest or not a fan of it.

You would surprisingly not hate couples. There would be some couples that would get under your skin (like that couple in tiktok. I'm sure you knew who). But there's a handful who you wouldn't hate! In fact you would even love a few!! Their connection with each other would something you would admire so much and the little things they do and say for each other is sweet!
Although i like to note not every Aromanitc person may be romantic positive. Some can be romantic negative or romantic neutral. So again don't just assume.

And lastly! If you go to a religious school and if you find a teacher saying how it's important to get married due to religious reasons you will find yourself thinking

"Oh...looks like I'm going to hell."

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welp those are just some daily experiences i deal with but i would like to emphasise again.
Every Aromantic is different.
So don't just read this and think that EVERY aromantic people experience this. If you are more interested in aromanatism, you can check out some more books here! (Or google<3)
But....I'm just sharing this so that maybe another person who's questioning right now may be guided somehow or to a normal person who wonders what it's like!!

So with that being said
In case I don't see ya!
Good afternoon, good evening and good night :D