Am I the asshole??

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AITA for making it uncomfortable on purpose when my parents friends comment on my dating life / my future babies?

I'm in high school and while I haven't told many people except my best friends, I'm a lesbian. You wouldn't guess it from looking at me, I've a cheerleader in the South, with long blonde hair and a pretty femme style.

But something fuckin weird has been going on since before I even came to terms with my sexuality.. ever since I was a little kid, my parents friends would talk about me being a heartbreaker, or how I'd be a good wife, or ask if I was dating any of the football players when I started cheer. In middle school for fucks sake. And my parents were fine with it?

It always gave me the ick but I only think I really understood why when I came to terms with my sexuality. Like it's honestly fuckin wild when bigoted people in my town say gay people are trying to influence their kids to "make them gay" ... Like have y'all heard yourselves spending the last 15 years trying to make a girl straight???

Anyway, I wanted to start pushing back on it but I'm not ready to out myself to everyone so I started calling it out as inappropriate but not giving more context.

One time recently, my aunt's friend was asking "are you dating Joe" then when I said no, he's my best friend and nothing more, she said that WE WOULD HAVE CUTE BABIES? like what the actual fuck.

So I made it as uncomfortable as possible and said "Please remember that I'm a minor. It's not appropriate for you to speculate on or comment on my sex life" and I walked away.

A little bit later, some of my dad's friends were joking about how the trade school I want to take classes at next summer vacation would be great for me to find a man at. I just stayed straight faced and said "Excuse me.. I'm a minor, and I'm your friend's daughter. It's not appropriate for you to be asking me about my dating life."

I just kept doing that, whenever someone said something icky assuming I was straight or that I was gonna marry or get pregnant with a man, I just tell them bluntly that I'm a minor and that this line of discussion is inappropriate.

My parents heard about this from several of their friends and got upset with me for "accusing" their friends of asking inappropriate questions. They said that it's a kinda normal joke to ask teens about that kinda stuff, nobody means much by it.

I said that it was not normal, I don't just go up to their friends like "who ya fucking?" And my mom grounded me for "back talk"

But fr I think I have a point, it is weird and uncomfortable and not something I want to be hearing from adults I'm not related to. Hell, I don't even want to hear it from family. I feel like the talk of me having BABIES with my FRIENDS is super fuckin weird from anyone. Like I can't imagine going up to someone half my age and telling them they should sleep with their platonic friends. Wtf.

AITA for being so blunt about not liking those questions?