tips for trans peeps

coping mecanisems 1 (what i know of)

TW: Self harm, Su!c!de.This chapter is not going to be like normal, so if you dont think about self harm or suicidal thoughts, you can skip this chapter, but if you do, please stay, because I want to help you.

So today I learned that 42% of trans people try/have tried to kill themselves and 60% of them try self harm. I can't say I am not a part of those, but I am trying to stop, and I have been clean of those for a week already so for me that is great, and that is mainly because of coping mechanisms. So I want to share the ones my friend and I have tried and what they are. I will give you 2 categories.

Safe and unsafe
I am showing unsafe ones too, because of spreading awareness. Please don't try them.

Unsafe:

Self harm
Self harm is intentionally hurting yourself. The most well known way is by cutting yourself, but it can also be something like getting in a fight just to get hurt, putting the shower way too hot on purpose, biting/scratching yourself and that kind of stuff.

Overeating/Undereating
Overeating is seen as a coping mechanism when done excessively. Don't do this, it will give you more mental problems in the future.
Undereating makes you lose a lot of weight, and I can tell you, the person who does this, wishes they could stop but they can't.

Trying su1c1de
Trying su1c1de/trying to k1ll yourself in any way is bad. There are many ways one will try to k1ll themselves and it is unhealthy. Don't do this.

Pretending everything is fine
Bottling up your emotions is very bad for you. It can hurt you more than it would originally and in some cases it can cause your body to just stop feeling emotions. This sucks and don't try this.

Safe:

Meditation
A safe way of coping with life is true meditation. Get in contact with yourself and find out that you can just stay calm. It is a great thing to do compared to nothing/an unsafe way.

Venting
This can be safe but can also not be. Vent somewhere in a judge free zone and don't expect everything to be better after venting, also only vent to people who you know can take it, because otherwise their mental health may decrease as well and we don't want that.

Writing
This is one of the ones I use a lot. It makes you feel in control. You can choose what happens, because everything happening is by your own hand. It can also make you feel like you are spending your time on something important.

Age regression
this is one a bit different from the others on this list. I know an age regresser, but I am not telling who, because this can be a sensitive topic for them. Age regression is something where you mentally/emotionally go back to a younger age. This can be to only a year or 2 younger, but can also go back to early childhood/infancy. I will probably make a book about this.

Working out
This is a coping mechanism that works surprisingly well, says the person who I know does it. it just takes your mind off things and gives you dopamine. Be careful that you don't over do it or it might make you feel worse.

Talking to someone you trust
This is one I can't say that much about except that you need to find someone who you trust enough to tell them about what is happening and ask for help. This is hard, but if you do you might feel better.

I hope I have helped you find a coping mechanism that is safe here, because I am looking for a world where these are more normal.Know you are all valid and I love you all so much.Bye.