The Art of Living

Those who seek great things need to have a big heart

To give others a chance to live is to give yourself a chance to turn around.

Strategic Thinking

No one can be invincible forever in life. When you are satisfied, you know how to leave a chance of survival to the people, and when you are first satisfied, you can get a chance of money from others. The mountain is not spicy water turn, when you leave yourself a back way, will not let yourself go on the road to extinction.

Strategy Interpretation

In interpersonal communication, it is inevitable that there will be different views and differences in cognition, interests, emotions, work and other aspects. Some people in order to maintain a private, will not be forgiven, have to compete with others, fight a win-win situation, not hesitate to bad language, and even fight, the results make the original simple things to become a boil, sometimes also caused by the time of jail, and even pay the life.

Reason is not forgiving, everything is calculating, not only will hurt each other's feelings, but also cause each other's resentment, intensifying conflicts, making the original some irrelevant small things, evolved into a fierce "conflict", which is extremely stupid move. Therefore, do things to others to leave room for maneuver, if others will be pushed to the brink of extinction, they will have no way back.

Of course, two people arguing, expressing their own views, it is inevitable, but not on the line, and do not make the argument into a dispute. To learn to think differently, the honor town to amend their own views, so that others from the perspective of thinking differently to understand their own motives. Only in this way will you not blindly condemn others or blindly defend yourself.

Case 1

Gongsun Hong of the Han Dynasty, his family was very poor when he was young, and even though he later held the post of prime minister, he still maintained a frugal life style. He had only one meat dish for dinner and slept under an ordinary quilt. For this reason, Ji An, a minister of the Han Dynasty, made a complaint to Emperor Wu, criticizing that Gong Sun Hong, who was ranked as one of the three ministers and had a considerable salary, only covered himself with an ordinary quilt, which was in fact a pretense to live up to his reputation, and his aim was to cheat the reputation of being frugal and incorruptible.

Food; Wei this, the Han Emperor asked Gongsun Hong, Ji An said is true. Gong Na Hong replied: "Ji An said there is no mistake, full Shuo civil and military ministers, he and I have a good friendship, but also very understand me. I was ranked as one of the three principal officials, but I was only covered with a common quilt, just like the common people, which was indeed a suspicion of pretending to be clean and honest. If it were not for Change Ember's loyalty, how could you, Your Majesty, have heard him criticize me in this way?" When Emperor Wu of Han heard Gongsun Hong's explanation, he on the contrary felt that he was a humble person and respected him more.

Case 2

Duke Mu of Qin had a royal pasture in Qishan, where all kinds of famous horses were kept. One day, a few horses suddenly broke through the fence and escaped. The herdsman who managed the famous horses was greatly alarmed. Knowing that he would be beheaded if his lord knew about it, he desperately sent his men to look around, and found some of the suspected horses in the countryside near the bottom of the mountain, thinking that the horses must have been eaten and dropped by these peasants. The autumn official of the Duke of Qin Ji was furious and wanted to condemn all these three hundred peasants to death and report them to the Duke of Qin Fan for a decision. Fearing that if Duke Qin Mu was furious, he himself would be guilty of killing his own head, the herdsman took these peasants and reported to Duke Qin Mu, saying, "I am very sorry that these peasants ate the famous horse, and that is why they were sentenced to death."

But surprisingly, Duke Mu of Qin was not only not angry when he heard this, but also said that these famous horses were of fine meat quality, so he rewarded them with wine. The three hundred peasants were exempted from the death penalty and went home happily, feeling very grateful to Duke Qin Mu for his kindness.

A few years later, Duke Mu of Qin was at war with Duke Hui of Jin. Duke Mu of Qin, who was once invincible in battle, was caught in a desperate pit, and his soldiers were surrounded by the enemy army. Seeing that he was about to be annihilated, Duke Qin Mu realized that he was afraid he would die in battle.

Suddenly, a corner of the enemy army began to crumble, and a group of soldiers on horseback rushed in to assist Duke Qin Mu's army in the battle. These soldiers from nowhere were very brave, only to see the Jin army retreating and finally had to withdraw, with the reinforcements protecting Duke Qin Mu from danger.

After reaching a safe place, Duke Qin Mu was very grateful to these brave soldiers and asked them where they came from. They replied, "We are the peasants who ate your famous horse and were saved from death." These peasants were braver than Duke Qin Mu's army, and they fought desperately to repay the favor of saving their lives. Duke Qin Ji was saved by the kindness of the three hundred lives he had saved before.