A Gentle Reminder

for the deep feelers

The right person will know how to hold your love.
The right person will choose you just as deeply as you
choose them. You will not have to quiet the way you
care, you will never feel like you are too much. You
will not have to beg for the love you deserve. One day,
you will be met where you are. One day, you will be
someone’s favorite thing, and you will not be confused
— you will not feel like you are fighting for someone
who isn’t fighting for you. One day, you will understand
that it never mattered how tightly you held on
to the wrong people, how intensely you tried, because
the right people were always going to find you. The
right people were always going to stay.

Remember — even the strongest souls get exhausted.
The strongest human beings, the ones who laugh the
loudest and hope the hardest, the ones who are always
there for others — those souls often need people there
for them. So, please — check on your kind friends.
Check on the people in your life who are tender, the
ones who are always open to give so much of who
they are for those who need it. Check on the people
in your life who love with every ounce of their being,
who feel deeply and care deeply, and try to fix
and mend and make sure that those around them are
okay. Please, just check on the people in your life who
are brave, who are soft for this world. Check on the
people in your life who protect others at all costs —
because those souls need protecting, too. Those souls
need to be reminded that they deserve the love they
keep giving to everyone else.

You have to let go. You have to let go because when
you hold on, when you keep something alive inside
of you, you are allowing for your past to take up the
space in your heart and in your mind that is meant for
your future. You have to let go because at the end of
the day, if you are going to find the human being who
is going to bring you the deepest kind of joy, if you
are going to find the person who is going to help you
experience the kind of love you have always deserved
— you have to make sure that you are ready for it.
You have to make sure that you will be open to it, and
you cannot make a home within your heart for the
person who will someday care for you in the softest
of ways if someone else’s memory is still living there.
You have to let go. You have to accept that sometimes
beautiful things end, that sometimes people leave, that
sometimes two human beings don’t beat the odds, and
you have to find closure in that. You have to heal.
You have to move forward, you have to believe in the
version of you that is laughing in bed on a Sunday
morning with the person they love twenty years from
now, because you deserve that future. It is waiting for
you. Choose it.

It is okay to take your time. We live in a generation
that romanticizes moving forward as quickly as possible
when it comes to careers and our futures and our
success within them. But there is no point in rushing
quickly towards a life that will not inspire you or fulfill
you. It is okay to slow down. It is okay to take the time
you need. You are in no rush to figure out your own
soul. It’s never too late to start over, it’s never too late
to change your mind, it’s never too late to redirect yourself,
to replace the dreams you thought you wanted for
the ones that genuinely excite and challenge you.

So keep going — because the world needs your
uniqueness. It needs your talent, your art, your mind. The
world needs you to take up space within that, so you
can change it with the vision that you have. You are
so deeply capable of doing something beautiful with
your life. Don’t let roadblocks, or self-doubt, or the
way your journey is unfolding convince you otherwise.
Leap towards all that scares and ignites you.
Just try for something while you’re here.