Estella

A/N : Independence Day ??

TW / SA
Bengal Horror

I wanted to post it on 15th but I was still overwhelmed by the horrific crime that happened in Bengal. A young female doctor only 31.

Moumita Debnath was her name. She must've had so many inspiration and dreams to become a doctor and help others. She must've worked so hard to achieve those dreams. A beloved, kind and loving person. She had worked a  36 hours tiring shift and had only wanted to rest for a while. She had called her parents and ensured them she was fine , how she must've had plans for the next day.

But nothing could've ever warned of the horrific and monstrous crime she would've had to endure.

Today she is on all the social media. People protesting for on the night of Indoence day People demanding justice for her.  For her culprits to be hanged. 

Maybe she had also participated in the protests for Nirbhaya and celebrated when her culprits were hanged , hoping and wishing no other girl will ever have to witness anything similar again. Who knew today People are comparing her with nirbhaya? How people are debating nothing changes in last 10 years ?

It hurts to know she must've been once my age and how she would've had dreamed about so many things. And how everything was taken away from her so cruelly. How she wasn't even allowed a chance to live her life. To live her dream.  All because of some monstrous animals.

When I started writing this story it was because I read way too many SA happening presently. Everyone sighs, says how it's such a tragedy how normalize assault is becoming and move on. I realsied nobody really talks how hard the recovery process must be for the survivors? Because the society calls them victim not survivors.  I wanted to write about it, I wanted to write how love might help someone. But when I truly started researching about it, I was heartbroken . Every single interview,  every single testimony was heartbreaking. It made me sick to think how could have we ever allowed this to happen ?  One of the biggest reason my writing.g slowed down significantly . I didn't knew if I was doing the right thing by writing about something so sensitive. 

But then I thought people need to know how hard it truly is. The movies the cinema they don't show it, the books are not written enough about it. We don't tell little girls how it's not right for anyone to touch them inappropriately.  We don't teach girls how it' NEVER THEIR FAULT .

But most importantly we don't teach the boys how girls are not a commodity or prize to win. We don't teach them to not turn a blind eye when any girl is being harassed.

We don't teach our kids the concept of CONSENT. We don't teach them about sexual education. We do absolutely nothing. We do nothing to control the porn industry.

There's so much we don't do still.

Recently I read news about school boys assaulting girls of junior classes. And I was truly heartbroken to think am I not even safe from kids ? When I look at young boy and treat them like a younger brother do they also think of me badly ?

When we read about SA what do we think ? Was she wearing revealing clothes? Was she out late at night ? Was she being friendly with boys ? Did she somehow Indicate she wanted it ?

Don't blame the victim. If the victim was supposed to be blamed, do tell eat wrong did that 3 year old girl did. What vulgar clothes was that 8 month old baby was wearing.

There's debate going " but not all men " yeah I know not all men are wrong but somehow its always a men isn't it ? It's wrong to genralise all men but haven't we seen way too many cases of family and friends being the perpetrators ? How do we not be cautious of strangers? If men don't want to be genralise as perpetrators then do better. Make women feel safe.

Those SA jokes are not funny. Those V- card jokes are not funny. The nasty comments under little girls are not funny.

I have so much anger and so many things to say. But will words be ever efficient ? Never

I know my readers are from all over rthe world but please protect yourself. I am not stupid to think men are safe form SA so protective t yourself.

I beg you all to protect yourself. Please.

Be your own Warrior. Your own protector.

Carry pepper spray if it's illegal in your country you can make it at home, if you want I'll share those videos with you.

Learn martial arts.  Learn how to runway in dire situations .

Look out for your female Friends and even strangers. You never know when you could be protecting someone from.something horrible.

Keep your drinks safe even from your friends . It's very easy to spike your drinks.

Install GPS in your phone and always keep it on.

Don't be ALONE . Please try to make sure you're not in an isolated area late at night or even day. Silence and solitude looks nice but use headphone in a crowded place instead.

I know it feels unfair to change yourself when it's not your fault, but let's do what we all can do to make it less hard for us .

I know it sucks to do all these things , because why should we give in to those fears right ?  I know. I feel the same. I also want to sit alone  in a library. I also want to take late night walks.

But these past days I only realised once thing. Independence for women is still imaginary. We aren't free and we will never be free when crimes against will be so generalised.

We need to bring the change . We all survived a global pandemic for God sake ? Educate people around you. Keep yourself updated. Look out for fellow women. Make your young girls and boys know about consent and they know they'll be heard if they ever come to you. Tell them wrong people gets punished Make sure they do.

I am doing everything I can and I hope you try too. If we try to make the world better for others it'll automatically become better for us .

Please keep yourself safe and take care and don't hesitate to reach out to me if you need any help. I'll try my best