Standing up to a bully and telling yourself YES.

Online Harassment

You see your notification for your facebook or KiK. You open your message and read what it says, it's from bully coward. Your heart starts racing and you start to panic, fear grips you. STOP...look away from the screen and ask yourself "why am I afraid of someone that I cant even see? Its only words on a screen. In freaking out over something someone says to me. online where I cant see them. They cant see me. Why? Ask yourself "Does what they think of me really matter to me? Will it make any difference in the long run?" Chances are people online are not classmates, they aren't anyone that you go to school with or that even live in your town or even state. So why do you give any thought to what anyone in an online setting says to you? Every social media outlet has a place where you can report harassment. You should be aware of how to do this and where to find the place for making complaints. And online bullying IS against the law!!

The first step is to report them. Don't worry, they wont know who reported them. Its confidential. If that doesn't stop the harassment, Maybe talking to a friends parents about what they think you should do. That is if you don't want to talk to your parents about it. I have found that a parents way of dealing with online bullying is to ground you from any social media instead of teaching you how to effectively deal with online bullies. If you have parents that you can talk to, then confide in them that you are having trouble with someone online and you would like their advice on how to best deal with said coward. You might say to yourself, But my parents would just make me get off the site or tell me that if I don't like it, stop talking to them. Just give a generalized answer that doesn't really help much. What I do when I am bullied online, I smile and think to myself "this person is really stupid to come at me like this" Its because I don't get anxious or nervous when confronted by anyone online. The first thing I think is Why are they mad at me? The next thing is I try to talk to them about what it is that is making them bully me. If talking rationally to them doesn't work i do one of two things. I ask myself "are they even worth my time and energy to pursue this?" What I mean by "pursue this" is that I will be doing to them what they are trying to do to me, I don't mind being a jerk to someone online if they are first being a jerk to me. The best thing to do is just ignore them. Maybe make a screen shot of the text and save it in case they continue to harass you. That way you have proof that they were bullying you. This will come in handy when you report them.

Does the coward openly bully you in class? If he does your going to have to react..he whispers to you "I wish you were dead, I have an extra razor blade you can cut your wrists, Emo freak." What you do next is up to you. This is the best way Ive found to deal with a bully thats in your class, you scream loud so its heard by the teacher "leave me alone (bullies name here) stop bullying me!" Its important to use the word "bully" and the persons name. Teachers will usually react when they hear that word BULLY "What..a coward in my class..Jake you get the tar, Johnny you get the down pillows.  We're going to tar and feather us a bully..Lisa you and Kelley get the door."

The bully coward will look at you and he might whisper to you "Your dead you little freak, getting me in trouble like this, your SO dead after school" Chances are the bully coward won't touch you. He has just been labeled a possible bully and troublemaker. If anything happens and another teacher sees him bullying you or another student, they will talk to his teacher. His teacher will say that he has been in trouble in the class before for harassing another student. And if anything, you can always stay after class and talk to the teacher one on one about whats going on. You aren't "being a squeal" "narking" "being a tattle tale" or any of that nonsense. You are sticking up for yourself and stopping something that you don't like. thats it. It has nothing to do with being a rat. It has everything to do with you taking matters into your own hands and solving a problem for yourself. Theres nothing wrong with that and in fact thats how you deal with anything in life. You face it head on and look at your options then choose the one that best fits the situation. And NO!! suicide isn't an answer, its a statement. One you will never be able to take back.

If you have ever wanted to impress a girl that your crushing on..If you ever get the chance to defend someone that you see is getting picked on , and they are near her, Go up to that kid thats being picked on and Stand Up for them. I have to be honest about something, ANYONE THAT WATCHES ANOTHER KID GET BULLIED AND DOES NOTHING, IS JUST AS GUILTY OF THE BULLYING AS THE BULLY

Throughout your life you will have to stand up for yourself. There will be times when you will have to say "No, I do not like this and I'm not going to except it anymore" And you will have to react. Either you will do the right thing and change what it is you don't like that another is doing to you, or a situation that you are in like a bad relationship. Either you stop it or change it. Thats solely up to you what you do in those situations. Nobody is going to do it for you. Maybe once or twice they will help you get out of something. In the end tho, only you are responsible for what remains in your life. This is a lesson that will be with you until your last breath.You are responsible for your OWN actions and reactions...NOBODY Else's. This means that you either let someone take advantage of you or bully you or steal your lunch money or make you do their homework. If you say "NO, I don't want to do that" "NO, I'm not going to allow you to do that to me" then the person cannot do it. Nobody can force you to do anything, well except your parents while your under their roof, or your boss. You have got to learn to say "No!" Telling someone No, doesn't mean that you are being mean. It doesn't mean that you are being a jerk. It just means that you don't want to do it. You do not have to please anyone except yourself. It isn't helpful to anyone if you please everyone else, yet at the same time denying yourself. It only makes it so that you give little to many instead of being able to give so much more to others. You do this by first, giving to yourself. Then and only then will you have anything thats meaningful and worthwhile to others.