Rants & Shit

25/12/2015

               Let's talk about Sex

         Awkward title awkward life.

Now I'm a guy. And Ive been a guy all my life. And being a guy is pretty darn great. You get to pee while standing up. I have no use to go bra shopping, don't  have to give birth, and don't have to use.. Well, tampons. But there's one thing that I HAATE. I hate it more than anything in the whole darn world! And that's how the male species treats sex. Yes, I said it, SEX! Somehow, sexual expectations think that when guys have sex, it is a reward from the girl. Like a transition of the guy giving and the girl receiving! No. I. Am. Not. A. Dog. You would think this idea would offend men but somehow, we've come to embrace it??!
The term "get laid" has been common for every male around about everywhere. Ladies and gentlemen, sex is not a gift you GIVE someone, it's an experience two people SHARE. You would think this is a common knowledge but I always hear guys talking about it like this

Guy to friend: Yo homie tonight I'm gonna get some puuuuuu-

Whhaaaatt?! I'm not even kidding this is a serious issue! At my high school, they actually had a list of guys and a list of girls, that we could RESERVE, like and actual HOTEL ROOM. I cannot be the only male who thinks this is disgusting! All these ideas come from TV, the Internet, your friends, your family and even the brands of items sold in supermarkets! The way our culture treats sex is not only damaging to the younger generation, but also to sex and relationships as a whole. Sex is no longer a union between two people in a deep, personal setting; it is now a selling point and a marketing strategy! It's what Carl's JR. sells their burgers with, it's what Miley Cyrus serenades us with ITS EVEN WHAT MADE YOU READ THIS PART. Your sexuality is no longer your sexuality, it's an idea that has been given to you by the people and companies in your life. From a young age I thought that sex was something to be achieved. As a kid, my friends and I talked about sex as if it were a milestone. It wasn't about the person - it wasn't even about what we ACTUALLY WANTED, it was about becoming a man. The idea that girls were actually sexual too didn't come to me until last year. Yes, when I was 17. I wish I was joking. Im not here to be a parent and tell you what to do and what not to do.I'm not here to be a preacher and tell you to wait till marriage. I'm not here to be a cooperation and pitch you my products. I'm not here to be a class you take in high school to tell you if you have sex you will get pregnant and die. I am here to give you a fact that everyone in our generation seems too afraid to say - your sexuality belongs to you. No one else can give consent to you and decide what your into and who you like. Your body, your mind, your ears, your eyes and your heart all belong to you and you need to decide what to do with them, who you let in who you push out and what you accept.

I'm here to tell you what I wish my teachers told me in highschool..

Sex is not an award
Sex is not a sin
Sex is not bad
Sex is also not good
Sex is not a selling point
Sex does not belong to your government, your teachers, your parents, your friends, your girlfriend your boyfriend or your church.

Sex is a powerful expression, and it belongs to you.