It was a nice and sunny afternoon in April of 2015. I was at my great grandma's house because it was hee birthday. Being me of course, I was in the back room, away from everyone else. My phone was in front of my face as always.
While I was skimming through snapchat, I came acrossed one that caught my eye. It was a selfie of a tan, handome guy with dark brown hair. He said: "Hey."
I was not in the mood to send a picture of my self back, so I sent him a picture of the carpet, replying back with a "hey."After that, we talked the whole night through, into the next day. We called a few times and we began to grow closer and closer. Little did I know that I was heading into the biggest nightmare of my life.
Okay, so there is this one question that started all the bad in our relationship. He asked me if I have ever sent nudes to othet guys and I told him no. Well, one night in June, he logged into my snapchat because I have him my password. He found something that put him into a utter shock.
So you know how I told you that I told him I never have sent nudes? It was a total lie...he saw that I sent a few to a few guy friends which I GREATLY regret. BUUUUUUT, it was before I met him and he still considered it cheating and after that, he became horrible.
Shortly after that incident, things were back on track and good. There was a few times he would bring it up, but it wasn't too major or anything.
Anyways, during that same month, he became grounded and had no phone or a way to contact me. He broke up with me and asked me to wait for him. Which was dumb because i could still be together and wait for him right? Anyways, after a few weeks of waiting, he came back to me and we started back up again because he found an old phone to secretly talk to me on.
We facetimed every night and talked every day like we did before. Though, listen to this. I had to keep my location on in messenger because he HAD to know where I was at all times to trust me. He had EVERY password of mine and he made sure ANY guy stayed clear of me.
He didn't like my bestfriend because she did some weird stuff, but it was when she was alone and without me. She just told me about her little adventures. Anyway, he said I couldn't hangout with her anymore because she was a "bad influence" and would get me to do bad things.
So...there went my only best friend. He was basically all I had to hangout with. EVERY weekend we HAD to hangout or he would get mad. Anytime I was having fun with family, he would be all pissed because I was having fun even though he wasn't in the presence.
He talked me into transfering into another school in my district because he said "I don't want old guy friends talking to you."
Even though, I still knew people at the school
I transfered to.He began to make me send screenshots of my texts and calls. If i didn't reply in the second he texted me, he would accuse me of cheating and talking to another guy. Though, he got to take as long as he wanted to reply to me.
When I went shopping, he would say "Don't buy this, don't buy that."
He wouldn't allow me to wear shorts or low cut tanktops because he doesn't want my butt and boobs hanging out. He says only TRASHY people dress that way and if I loved him, I would only wear pants.He said I could only curl my hair for him and that I wear "too much" make up. When in reality, I don't.
For months he tried to get me to have sex with him. He would tell me that if I didn't have sex with him, I didn't love him. He constantly talked about how good he mad another girl feel while having sex. Which bothered the heck out of me. I don't care!!!
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He always said he could beat up any guy and that if any guy looked at me, he would kill them. He always fake punched the air to try to show me how tough he was and would say things like "I'm a good fighter and can beat any one up, even a guy that has big muscles."
He was kinda acting full of himself and would make it seem like he was the strongest guy out there. I'm glad he felt that way, but it was kinda annoying.
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You think that is bad? Oh man, it only gets worse.We began facetiming over night because it made us feel like we were sleeping with eachother. Well, I live with my grandma until my mom and dad get back together. So, I was living there with my mom.
He constantly asked what every single noise was, he had me show him the whole basment and reassure him that there was no guy waiting for me outside. He even one time made a remark like "I bet there is guys lined up at yout back door, waiting their turn to have sex with you." I remember how boiling mad that made me. I was boiling!
He constantly accused me of cheating! If I didn't answer the call right away.
He would punish me. I would try to call him back and he would reject my calls. He would be like "You should've answered right away."
When I would call him, he RARELY answered!!!-
He beat me up everyday for the mistake I made with snapchat. I cried every night because of him and he accused me on the daily and verbally abused me. I was once a bubbly happy person, but now, I'm souless and emtionless. I hardly cry and I hardly smile. This guy turned me into a mess.
That is my story.
Crazy? I think YES.
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