Out Of My System

Chauvinist Men and Feminism

Feminism: the advocacy of women's rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.

I want everyone to read the definition of feminism above. Notice the word 'equality'? Yeah? That means feminism is the damand of 'equality' in our society amongst both men and women, right? Right. Now that we got that covered I want to talk to you all about something that I came across today that has bothered me so much to the extend where I am writing this at 3:40 am because I need to get it out of my system.

I was surfing the Internet during my break a few hours back and came across a video about two famous individuals who were dating and have apparently broken up recently. This video had over a million views, so naturally I clicked on it too see what all the fuss was about. The video was very short, and included pictures of the guy blushing at the women's stage dance performance. Cute right? So I scrolled down on my phone screen to have a sneak at the comment section. First comment went something along the lines of 'He should leave her, she is not 'wife material', this made me slightly angry but more curious than ever. What exactly was 'wife material' according to this guy? Well, it didn't take me long to find out, another man with his brain functioning correctly was calling the...let's say 'Pea-sized brain' man out.

According to this 'pea-sized brain' man a 'wife material' woman is someone who prioritises her husband, children and her 'husband's family' over anything including her career. The first thing that popped into my head is 'what about the woman's family, is she not allowed to prioritise them either'? He then went on to claim that the famous woman was a, and I quote 'Feminist BITCH', that is 'bitch' in cap locks. He said that this woman did not deserve the 'ALPHA' man because he has so 'many options' with the women. The famous woman is not 'wife material' because she is too career oriented and does not give the 'love', 'care' and 'lots of sex', that a man obviously needs correct? She 'hates men' and this 'pea-sized brain' man claimed he had seem hundreds of interviews of this woman to know that she 'hates men'.

Firstly, know the difference between a 'feminist' and a 'feminazi'. Feminist, is what I am and I am proud to say that I am. I think everyone should be a feminist, both men and women. However, a 'feminazi' is what I am not. They take things to an extreme 'I hate all men, we need no man - we are much more superior than men' level with their approach. I can assure you that this woman who this 'pea-sized brain' man is talking about is NOT a feminazi. She does not hate men. I only need one proof for this, she wouldn't have dated a man if she hated men - enough said.

And as for the 'woman should prioritise marriage and men over their career'? Women work hard to get to a certain position. I work hard, I study day and night to get good grades so that I can get into a good paying job (only to work with a man who would probably be paid more than me for doing the same job). After I get the job, and work hard at it and hopefully enjoying it - I'd get married off to a man. If I was to get married of to a man with a similar mind set as the 'pea-sized brain' man, there is a high likeliness that he would tell me to stay with his family, cook for him and his family, clean his underwear, have his children for him and then when the time comes quit my job because you know, priorities. Let me get this straight, I don't mind cooking for my husband and his family, cleaning the house, cleaning his underwear, giving birth to our children and looking after them because I am married to this man. But why can't a man do the same? If I am doing a paid work job as well as my husband and I return equally tired as him to face the other load of work whilst he gets to sit down on a comfy couch to watch a football match, where exactly is the fairness and equality? And this is probably when a man with similar thoughts as the 'pea-sized brain' man would say, "Oh quit your job. I'll earn the money because I'm the alpha male." Here is probably a good time to mention that this man also said that 'men hate women who earn more than them!'. Anyways, back to the quitting job, so I've worked hard for my job and now my husband is telling me to leave it all? Now this is where feminism gets a little complicated. I believe that feminism should fight for the choice of women. In this case, if a woman WANTS to prioritise her family and give up her job, the she should be able to. But if a woman DOES NOT WANT TO then than should be accepted to. Like I said, if I've hard to reach a high position in my career and I want to continue with it, then I should be able to.

I feel that there should be a middle ground. Nothing should be more prioritised than the other. You should obviously care for you loved ones, without too many questions being asked but you should also be able to work a paid job without too many questions asked.

As for this famous woman who this man was commenting on, I know for a fact that she has worked very hard to the success she is today.

Rumours said (which this man believed fully by the way) that they broke up because the famous woman rejected the famous man because he wanted to eagerly get married to her. This made the the 'pea-sized brain' man say that this famous woman only wanted 'fame and money' and don't care or love him. Wow, that indeed escalated quickly. I just also want to say that if indeed this famous woman was only looking for 'fame and money' the only thing she needed to do was marry this famous man. He is very rich and famous so if you get married then life is settled. But no? She didn't want to get married now (according to the rumors) she wanted to work. I want to also mention that this famous woman had said in a couple of her interviews that once she gets married, she would want to stop working as an actress . This means that she clearly wasn't yet satisfied with her work, she wanted to work more because she liked her profession and wasn't ready to give it up yet. What's so wrong in that?!

This 'pea-sized brain' man mentioned that nobody wants to see their girlfriend being kissed by another man. Well that might be correct to some men. But he is talking about acting. ACTING. I have friends who do drama in college, they kiss all the damn time on stage - and nobody gives an F. So what's the big deal? Especially if the famous man was alright with it. Why are you Mr. I AM A PEA-SIZED MAN WHO IS ALPHA AND BASICALLY ABOVE ALL WOMEN so bothered by this?

Frankly I was surprised to see there are men in the 21st century who still thinks like this, he also did say many inappropriate things which clearly objectified the famous woman. A thought is, a man cannot even be thought to give up his job to prioritise his family because that obviously is a woman's job. *sarcasm*, especially not in this famous man's case.

However I was also pleased with the other man, arguing in a respectable way, supporting the famous woman and women in general. We need more people like him.

I would go on about how a woman was supporting the 'pea-sized brain' man but it was very obvious that this woman was very jealous of the famous woman's success and her love life with the famous man that the woman clearly fangirled over.

Anyways, men and women should love eachother, care for each other and definitely have the equal amount of choice a respectable individual should have.

*phew that is out of my system*

Aleena

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I don't know how people are going to react to this because it may even be an unpopular view. But this is MY POINT of view.

This was on a video that had two Indian celebrities in it. So it is likely that the men (the good and the bad) were Indian.

I've met many right thinking 'good' Indian men in my life to know that not everyone is going to think like the 'pea-sized brain' one. So I am not going to generalise all Indian men, or all men in the world.

There are some who lives in the 21st century who knows how to respect women in all ways and others who are still stuck in the 15th Century, not letting the woman have any say in what they like and dislike. Don't be the second one.

That was long...XD well at least it's out of my system