I am bothered. I know this trend of thinking about us has long been embedded in the minds of people (particularly girls) but lately it seems that it has already crossed the line. From something based on individual experiences, it has slowly grown into an infectious stereotype - something almost parallel to the undertones racism brings. You hear that?
“Beware. They are excellent manipulators.”
“I’d rather be single than be fooled by these b*stards.”
“Romantic relationships are a mess because of them.”
“Heartbreakers. I am afraid to love again because I’m absolutely sure that I’ll just get hurt.”
“I can’t even find the guts to be close with someone.”
“I’ve known them far too long and I know they know nothing but use you for their fantasies.”
“Then, after feasting on your body, they’d go for their next victim, leaving you there. Empty. Broken.”
“I am a man-hater, and don’t blame me because you don’t know my story.”
And probably, the worst and yet the most common goes like this...
“They are all the same.”
I have heard and read these lines over and over again – in social media, from strangers, from my closest friends. But you know, it is more than just hearing them. Like most of my brothers, I have been a subject of that filtering look girls do before deciding to get acquainted with the opposite sex. It is as if every one of us, by default, is marked with a warning. Caution: may cause heartbreak and lifelong trauma
I am not here to advocate something. I am not here to prove myself innocent. I am not even here to defend my brothers from your glaring perceptions. Believe it or not, I am here to expose to everyone the very things that make us who we are. To every guy out there, I am sorry for breaking the bro code, but I believe it is time that people know the truth – the naked, honest and rotten truth – about how we function. No more lies and no more misconceptions. I know not everyone will agree with this, and I know in every general rule there will always be an exception, but I hope this will set the record straight and show ONCE AND FOR ALL… the problem with us guys when we are in a relationship.
PROBLEM #1.) Madali kaming magsawa
I’d like to start strong and frank. It is true. We easily get discontented, especially when we discover something we don’t like. Our enthusiasm in a relationship depends on a wide array of factors – from how sweet or clingy a girl may be to the way she acts and responds in the event of an LQ. There must be something so unique and worthwhile in a relationship, something we know we can never find again, for us to sustain a “happily-ever-after”. If everything is just ordinary and routinary, then we will most likely succumb to this primal inclination. The bitter thing about this is that our sweetness and thoughtfulness is directly proportional and dependent on our enthusiasm (Note that I said enthusiasm, not love). Nonetheless, it is a vicious cycle, a deadly correlation that we find hard to remove from our system.
PROBLEM #2.) We like to get physical.
No, no, I don’t mean we want to physically assault you when we have misunderstandings. I mean… every guy, no matter how conservative he is, wants to be physically intimate with his girl. The level of intimacy might vary from one guy to another, but the truth is we always desire intimacy and physical sweetness. If you give us the “no-kiss-until-we-get-married”rule, then I’m afraid that will exponentially increase the probability of #1 to happen no matter how perfect or worth it you are inside-out. Because we are most of the time initially attracted to you by your physical appearance, then the desire to be physical with you will inevitably be there. It will eat our enthusiasm if you don’t address it. Contrary to popular notion, this is more of a physiological rather than a psychological phenomenon. And no matter how respectful a guy may seem, deep down in his subconscious that standard craving lingers… just waiting for the right moment to manifest itself. It’s not because we are “manyak sa utak”, but mainly it’s because of our wicked testosterone levels. It’s in our hormones, girls, just like being moody and melodramatic is in yours. In as much as you find it hard to control yourself when you are hormonal, then you have to understand that the same is true for us.
First two. So far, so good. Hey, don’t act so offended or surprised. Not yet, for there is more to come. :)
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Relationship 101
Storie d'amoreGirls have always been an open book. Guys knows what and how girls would think. Blogs, SNS post even videos about girls are posted everywhere. Now it's time to know how guys think. Read ahead and learn.
