“Too much love will kill you if you can’t make up your mind”
This lyrics from the song ‘‘Too much love will kill you” caught not only my attention, but to those who also experienced love and pain. The questions then follows: Why does pain exist? Is there no any solution to avoid this dilemma?
The answer to the last question is “NO”. In fact, there are a lot of ways to prevent it. But here, we only have 7 ways to prevent heartbreaks.
1. Show enough love to a person. Showing your love, care, and concern is just simply saying that you really value him or her. In that way, they would not look for others to show them those because they are already contented, happy, and blessed in having you in his or her life.
2. Never took them for granted. Do not use a person for your own sake and just for fun. If you love to play one’s heart, better not to continue for everything has its own “Payback Time”. You might also experience the feelings which you have done to the person you have once taken for granted.
3. Never argue on small things. Small misunderstandings if untreated well would lead to arguments and break ups. The best thing to do is to trace back the cause and make solutions out of it. Talk humbly. Lessen your pride and anger because it would just lead to nothingness.
4. Be open-minded. Don’t let everything to be ruined because of your pride and misinterpretation. Don’t be pessimistic. Think first before making any conclusions and analyze it well. If something went wrong, think of a good way or action to solve the problem.
5. Don’t give your all. Never ever give your all to a person especially your body. We don’t know what’s on a person’s mind. If he’s planning to leave you after, it’s really a big loss to your worthiness.
6. Make that person as your inspiration. This is the best way to do to avoid severe heartaches. Make him or her as your inspiration and not a distraction. Being inspired would boost up your energy to continue in fighting against this battle of life and leads you to the success you are aiming.
7. Don’t take any commitments if you’re not yet ready. If you think that you’re not responsible enough to take any commitments, then don’t. If you’re afraid to be hurt, better stay single. Don’t be in rush. Anyway, love waits and arrives at the right time.
Loving someone is a good thing. It does show that you value God’s greatest creation, we the humans. But, loving someone too much though you know he or she doesn’t love you is what we called “stupidity” that would really cause you in pain. Pains exist because we choose to believe things that are scrutable and imaginary. We follow our hearts which becomes dominant in our decision-making. We are being carried by this strong emotion, for we are weak and unable to control and shape it. Carry and control your emotions. Be constant and rational in every decision. Don’t let those emotions to carry you, but carry them instead. And the last thing you should remember is that you are also one of God’s greatest creations, so don’t forget to take good care of yourself because sometimes, we have to be our own hero to save our own little heart.
