Dating. For years, this has been a humongous discussion among churches and church members. And it really is a very touchy subject.
Some court, some date. That's how it is. But not too long ago, my parents explained why they want me to court and not date. They sat me down and we all listened to a message preached by Sister Claudette Walker, an amazing woman of God.
She explained dating in a way I had never viewed it nor thought about it.
Simply put, dating, she had said, is like going to the Farmer's Market to buy fruit. You examine all the fruit and take a bite of each one, trying to find the perfect fruit for you. You take a piece of them away each time you test them, but since there's only one that you have envisioned, all the others that were not the one are left with a chunk missing.
When we date someone, we give them a piece of us based on the intimacy of the relationship. The size of the piece, however, is depending on how far we go with them in the relationship. It may be a small piece, or a big piece, but it is still a piece of our hearts.
And if they end up not being the fruit you wanted, we toss them away, or vice versa.
I'm not saying that it isn't okay to date. It's really up to us all, based on the maturity exhibited and if they portray the characteristics we have been praying for. All that I'm saying is to keep your purity close to your heart and cherish it. Don't give it away until you find the one you know that you are to grow old with, and after you both say I Do, you will have it unblemished and still pure and be able to give it to him without the nightmares of remembering the past. We just have to be cautious on how we approach dating and who it is we are dating.
I've been in a relationship before, and I deeply regret it. It hurt, and still does. I still find it hard to forgive myself and let go of it. But God has already forgiven me, and I now need to accept it.
Again, I'm not saying that it isn't okay to date, it just depends on how close our relationship is with God and how intimate it is.
Love you all!!!
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Thoughts From A Christian Teenager (DISCONTINUED)
Spiritual(Discontinued until further notice) Thoughts about this world from an average teenage Christian girl. From struggles to strengths, this talks about a wide variety of things teenagers deal with in their daily life.
