I could write a book

cooking

You can think of a relationship as cooking, and you can think of cooking as painting a picture. The colors of the food don't necessarily have to correlate with the colors of the painting, it's the aesthetic look that determines whether or not the food is appetizing or not. This goes along with people's tastes as well, some people like different foods the same way that some people like different paintings.

I'll give you an example. My mother recently made a type of soup, it had chicken, boiled Tomatoes, boiled vegetables, and a couple other boiled things as well as this very oily thick soupy substance surrounding everything. Now you might think, yeah that's soup. No. That was not soup. That was what chicken dish should have been thrown into water that had too much oil and salt in it. If it was a painting it would be thick muddy colors with several points of sharp orange and red and maybe sick poop green. In other words not very aesthetically pleasing. Well some of the colors AKA tastes were good, on the whole it was a sour, oily,  nasty soup.

Some of the bites I took out of it were quite delicious, but unfortunately many of the bites stabbed my tongue with an overly tart taste, probably from the tomatoes, or an overly sweet taste, probably from the chicken. If the entire dish tasted like the best bites it would have been a fantastic meal, but it didn't. The meal was very two dimensional, it was a very plain background with a bunch of colors put on top, nothing melded together, nothing mixed, everything was kind of in a state of solitary chaos.

When you cook food, you are mixing colors together, you are painting on top of line, your accent in a background that is predetermined by the food that you are cooking with. Some foods are sweet, some foods are sour, it all depends on how you prepare and cook those foods.  To add depth you need to understand perspectives, to add contrast you need to understand the relationships between things, to add shading and  light you need to understand appropriate potency. This ideal goes for anything you do in life; in order to predict the result you need to understand the components of the desired product.

The same is true for relationships. If you don't understand the type of person you are in a relationship with then nothing you do can end up great. You are stuck with mundane and overly vanilla results in everything you do together. When you understand what sort of a person you're in a relationship with, and you understand what sort of a person you are yourself, that's when you can finally make a relationship something that tastes great, and if someone's good at cooking it helps quite a bit, so get crackin.