thoughts, poems and teenage shit

inspirational shit

I'm not an easy person to work with & love but I'd like to think that I'm worth it.

Sometimes I am really terrible to myself and relentlessly compare myself to other people, no matter how many times I hear or read how good enough or lovable I am.

There is so much pressure to deal with in our culture today. We can feel as if theres something wrong with us from the simplest things.

For example, there's the daily pressures of being a certain weight and there's pressures of being single there's pressures on having good grades and pressures on having a big social circle there's just SO MANY THINGS THAT THE LIST COULD GO ON FOREVER.

Lately I've been trying harder to catch myself when I feel a non serving, self destructing thought coming on. And I may let these thoughts slip at times, but that's okay because I'm only human.

I have felt like this for a while, so I have found some ways to remember that I am good enough, that I am truly worth it.

1. The people you compare yourself to compare themselves to others as well.

When you look at other people you must realize we are all just human beings. We all are insecure and imperfect, and are most likely going through the same universal challenges that you are. 

2. Your mind can be a pretty convincing liar.

It's unhealthy to give negative and degrading comments attention and give them power over your confidence. 

3. There is more right than wrong with you.

As someone who sometimes tends to zoom in on all my perceived flaws, it helps to remember that there are lots of things I like about myself too—and since I live by cliffs over the water I like to write these down on leaves and throw the leaves off the cliffs; letting them be free. 

4. you need love the most when you feel you deserve it the least.

I find that it is most difficult to accept love and understanding from others when I'm in a state of anger, shame, anxiety, or depression. But realizing this really shifted my perspective and made me realize that love is actually the greatest gift I can receive during rough times.

5. You need to accept the the past and present before you can enjoy your future.

This one is probably the hardest for me, since I am literally always stressing. Whether it's about giving a speech presentation or a simple dentist appointment I always dread over my past experiences of the things happening and let my anxiety take over me to a point I am afraid of the future. This is extremely harmful to my mental state of mind (or anybody's) and I'm glad I've been able to control myself with this more. 

6. focus on progress over perfection.

we don't seem to realize is that striving for success and being willing to put ourselves out there is an accomplishment within itself, regardless of how many times we fail. Being a competitive cheerleader, often when we don't win my teammates tend to get really upset and focus on the negative instead of realizing how far we have come thanks to hard work. Instead of beating yourself up  for messing up, give yourself a pat on the back for trying, making progress, and coming as far as you have. 

7. You can't hate yourself into loving yourself.

Telling yourself what a failure you are won't make you any more successful. Telling yourself you're not living up to your full potential won't help you reach a higher potential. Telling yourself you're worthless and unlovable won't make you feel any more worthy or lovable.

I know it sounds almost annoyingly simple, but the only way to achieve self-love is to love yourself—regardless of who you are and where you stand and even if you know you want to change.

You are enough just as you are. And self-love will be a little bit easier every time you remind yourself of that.

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sorry I felt very inspired hahah

hope this helped someone 

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