Before I give my reasons for liking this series, I want to say that if someone got hurt with my words in my first 13 Reasons Why, I sincerely apologize. I didn't mean to hurt you. That's just my arrogant side. The "reality" world for me. Again, FOR ME. (I deleted it because it got more attention than needed and I didn't like it.)
I didn't write this to seek attention. I just want to express my feeling towards this TV series. I don't need you to agree with me. Just respect my opinion. ^^
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It's been weeks since I heard and read the article about 13 Reasons Why. It was pretty bad since it says, "Why 13 Reasons Why shouldn't be aired" (Something like that.). But I thought, maybe it's just a way to catch the attention of the people. Well. It did for me.
After watching 13 Reasons Why, I learned that:
1. Hannah just needed a friend. Just one friend is enough.
2. She didn't want everyone to know her at all.
3. She is emotionally unstable.
4. She doesn't know how to find a good friend.
5. She just can't move on.
Understanding is not the right word if we're talking about reality. I haven't experienced any of this bullying so I won't understand. But I've experienced of being jealous with my friends, having misunderstanding, being misunderstood, being back stabbed, being in love with a wrong person, being aloof, being cheated on and being lost. So I learned a lot from this TV series.
First, we all know that love is not blind. We see the wrong things, we just don't mind. That was what happened to Hannah. She was just blown away by Justin's smile. Who wouldn't? He's handsome and got charming smile. The problem here is Justin, a boy (yes a boy) who cannot stand in his own feet. A boy who can't speak the truth. A boy who is so dependent to his friends. I was really glad that Hannah has her FML, at least for a little bit. So if your friend told you that she liked a boy you don't like, just be a friend to her. Just be there when she needs you.
Second, feeling left out of the group really hurts. It feels like the world you created has been crashed and taken away from you. Knowing they've moved on without giving you a heads up. But it's not just being left out, they left you. You should only leave a friend if she did something bad to you. (Bad to the point of no forgiveness.)
Third, misunderstanding is a common thing in the world. Who's not being misunderstood or never been? But not being able to give a chance to defend yourself, will drive anyone crazy. Being shut in the room where there is no door, a window with just a building on the other side and a cellphone without a sim card or internet connection, it feels terrifying. Especially, if the misunderstanding is with your friend. Sometimes, people just need an ear that will listen to them or a shoulder to cry on or maybe a punching bag.
Fourth, if someone robbed your house, and that someone asks you out, would you agree? Of course not! Hell no! That's the same with Tyler. I know he likes Hannah. But taking pictures is too much. She's in the right mind to say,"WTF? Seriously?" then walked out. Boys 101.
Fifth, without friends at school, it's so boring. No inspiration. No one to wait on the hallway. No one to eat with. No one to have fun with. Hannah just wanted a friend. A friend that would listen to her. A friend she have fun with. A friend that will help her. A friend she can be useful. Everyone needs a friend. Choosing is hard if everyone is so self-centered.
Sixth, chocolates, flowers and a teddy bear. Who wouldn't like those during the sweet Valentine's day? Everyone who wants to enjoy the day can go on a date. Having a date doesn't mean you should be with someone you know for a long time. Some people just don't have someone to be with so they decided to have fun. Rumors are just rumors until that person admitted it. Hannah still deserves to be respected whether she is a slut (which is not) or not. Every girls needed to - whatever she wears or how much make up she put on. It's just chivalry is dead. (I hope not.)
Seventh, if someone touched your not-so-dry-painting-that-you-worked-on-for-days, told you that he will re-do it for you and asked for your forgiveness, would you do it? What if he even asked you out? Come on! It's not all about the looks. Boys should be more sensitive not hitting the nerve. And if you are handsome but stupid (in some way), you're a loser to a broken girl.
Eighth, readiness. If someone is not yet ready, you should push them to hard. You can just keep on encouraging them until they do so. Their willingness to open up is so important that if you can't understand them and keep pushing them to their limit, it will break your relationship and it will break her.
Ninth, someone who will stick to you for better or for worse, for richer, or for poorer, in sickness and in health. That's what everyone loves to have. For Hannah, she was never late to realize it. We really need to go through difficulties before we can find the right one. How can something be the right one if you haven't know the wrong one? Hannah is a girl who has been through a lot of difficulties, hardships, bullying and problems with boys. She was afraid. Just like those boy and girl best friends. She might be hesitating that they might end up to be strangers. Hints are everywhere, Clay! You don't know the vocabulary of girls, if they say no, that is yes, maybe or no. But no matter what they say, never leave. Just be there. Girls are not that complicated if you won't leave.
Tenth, it was hard to witness that and can't do anything by that time. But you did your part by telling the truth to everyone who's involved. You fought, Hannah. You are so courageous in that part. You were sorry for your friend. But it isn't all about you. Justin, her boyfriend was there! He should be the one to be blamed for this. Not you. Not just you. You tried.
Eleventh, Sheri is a coward. You are great, Hannah! You tried to fix what you've broken but life will give you more problems. It wasn't your fault. It was an accident. If everyone just has been careful, that won't happen. I know it was hard to process everything. It was a disaster that you can't tell anyone. But you actually tried, but you two were both emotionally unstable. You tried your very best to reach out.
Twelfth, Hannah, watching this scene made me realize how cruel people can be. That this is real. It's easy for people to misjudge you because of a picture, a post, a grammatically incorrect sentence, uneven skin, white hair, ugly tangled hair and so on. It may not be true, but it hurts that people think that way. That people will give dirty looks on you. That people will call you names. That you would experience something so evil. And that isn't your fault. Bryce said you looked at him with thirst in your eyes, but I know it's so impossible since you can't even do it with Clay, someone you like. You didn't say no because you are traumatized. You restricted. You squirmed and even cried.
Thirteenth, you asked for help and this time, to the right person. You tried to get reasons to live still. To enjoy life and have motivation. But he failed to sympathize. I get it. I know what you're trying to say. I know you want to indirectly say it for Mr. Porter won't think that you're just seeking attention. That he would catch up on you and would never judge you. That we would understand you. That you will be given another reason to look forward to tomorrow. Giving an option to move on is not even a choice. When she asked if Bryce will be in jail, you should have answered that you will make sure the cops would do their job and that you would protect her. That you cannot guarantee that because you're not in the power to do that. Just make her understand what you can do. And you just need to grab her hand when moved to the door. She already gave you all the hint to her suicide. But it seems that you are not paying attention to that. She told you what happened. You can help her.
These are the things I've learned from watching this TV series. I realized that suicide rate significantly increases every year. It might be a financial, family, love life or friend problems. So if someone needed your help, lend a helping had. Make it two, and hug them. Simple changes in their lives can save them.
They are all dead. But there are people right now who might have already planned to kill themselves, the only thing that we can do is to make friends with me. Ask them to go out, just as friends.
To those who already died, let's know the reasons so it can be prevented. Life is so precious since we can only live once. We should always cherish it with our loved ones and friends.
