1. Understand me.
Want to understand me. Be so interested in me, find me so intellectually pleasing that you feel as if you need to understand me. Don't ever get tired of me and my mind. I promise you'll never fully know me.. I got so many layers to me. Seek me, listen to me speak my mind & find peace in that. Be truly mentally and emotionally invested in me.
2. Love me for me
Such a cliche saying but very accurate. Don't try and change me, don't think my vulnerability for you means take advantage of me. I'm not some doll, I am a woman. And it is so stressful to know that young boys truly believe a girl should do EVERYTHING they request. I will not change myself- the person I have worked so hard on becoming- to meet YOUR needs. As a girlfriend, and maybe one day a wife, of course I will work towards being the person my man needs me to be as long as it respects ME. That's a relationship respect thing, not a control thing. It wouldn't technically be for him, more like.. its for us, for our relationship. Were suppose to help each other grow, and work towards evolving together.
3. Respect me
In today's society, I've noticed disrespect and abuse is being romanticized like crazy. Calling your girlfriend a bitch and a hoe and thinking its "cute" is ABUSE. The fact that I've had people tell me I'm crazy for thinking this way is whats crazy. Talking down on a lady, or a boy.. calling them a hoe, telling them you hate them, convincing them to do things for you out of "love", making them take blame for your mistakes... all this is abuse and people confuse it for love everyday.
Young girls, one of them being myself, have once fallen for this twisted ass shit and that's exactly what it is. Twisted. Treating people like that gets you no where, while breaking another person down, I truly believe you're breaking yourself down in that process. Its not cute, and its not "relationship goals". Hopefully one day, these boys and girls will realize how disgusting that trend is and make changes about it.
4. Take my feelings into consideration
I know humans tend to be selfish, and that's fine. But once you offer a person your heart and a part of you, be selfless at times is required. When you do things, stop and think about me. How would i feel if she was doing this? Is this going to make or break our relationship? How is this going to make her feel? Is it worth it?
I understand your first mind is going to shout, go for it! Don't over think it! Just do it! But that's the thing, you need to have a multi-dimensional approach to everything. Not even just as a boyfriend or girlfriend, but as an individual. Have layers, analyze them before making a decision. Think about me.
5. Be real with me.
I mean this in every way that i can mean it. When you're around me, hide nothing. Be the you that you're comfortable with. Don't be scared to be YOU. Let me see all your sides, all your layers, let me see all of you that makes up you. Flaws and all.
But also, be real, with me. Don't hide things from me. The implication that hiding something from me, thinking you're helping me, or preventing me from getting me mad is what makes me mad. Thats where you fuck up.
No secrets, no half truths, I just want wholeness, something real and true. But at times I feel as if that is too much to ask of a person.
