So had this conversation today with a friend, if you can call her that. And we were talking about our mutual friend. He has Peter Pan Syndrome (I will refer to it as PPS) and he is really sweet and he loves everyone no matter what you do to him. And he love(s/d) this guy....we will call him J.
So we were talking about the boy with pps, we will call him k, and how she wants her child (When or if she has one) to be like k. I told her that I did not want my kid to be like that, because I want my kid to have experiences and an understanding of life and not just a sweet gullible innocents.
I make a joke and said lol I'm gonna be an awful parent. And she said k's parents are awful but he's cute.
My response to that was if you boil and egg and a potato one will harden and one will become soft. She didn't quite understand this analogy so I went on to say that it was the same thing with people. You take can take two people and put them in separate rooms, you put them through the same emotional, physical, and phycological pain and they will eventually harden and become more emotinally unavailable (harden) or become nice (soften). In our mutual friend group, the group had suffered an unfortunate loss, J had committed suicide. J and K's story are quite alike and so I would say J had been the egg and K had been the potato.
These thoughts and phycological evaluations happen to be a prime reason why I have no friends.
Now my only question for this short article is how dose the person who softened survive? I understand a hardening effect to push away people to protect yourself but why do people soften? What effect would that have on that person? Is it was type of natural selection? Where the emotinally unavailable would live longer but in solitude and the emotinally weak become gullible and too forgiving? Is that why J and K were attracted to each other?
Comment your ideas on why this happens guys
