Being a Trans Boy

23rd July 2017 - Coming Out

So, I only came out about month or so ago and while some people have already started accepting it, there have been others that aren't quite there yet.

At school, all my friends and even people I don't really talk to much, but know, have come up to me and said they're supportive of me and that I'm really brave for coming out.

But then there are others.

The first person I ever came out to was my mum. And she wasn't too pleased about it. She gave the whole 'you haven't properly experienced what it's like to be a girl' speech and then proceeded to yell at me after I mentioned surgery. However, over the month she's known, I've noticed that, though she's accepted it, she doesn't exactly support it and will sometimes confuse me by saying things that she doesn't understand hurt me.

Next was my Nanna, who seemed to take it well but the very next day, and every day since, she's tried to 'sweep it under the rug' and thinks it's just a phase, which just hurts even more. If it's a phase, it's the longest phase I've ever had, 16 years and counting.

My siblings are accepting for having a brother, especially my little brother, who got really excited when I told him he had an older brother. My older sister is really supportive (which is also why she was the first one I told about my girlfriend) and, though she still occasionally calls me by my birth name, she'll correct herself and that's ok for now.

I've yet to tell my dad, mainly because I don't live with him, and I've kind of shut him out of my life for the abusive relationship, but he dropped my siblings off one day and commented "where have your boobs gone?" when I was wearing my binder and that felt like an accomplishment.

I've yet to tell a lot of people, particularly teachers, randoms at school and a few more close friends and family but I'm sure it'll happen soon.

Well anyway, catch ya later~

- Kody