TRUE LOVE IS…..
When we think about finding true love , the 1st scenario that comes to our mind are two people who chose to love each other and lived happily ever after. But what about the other story of true love? When the one you love , loves someone else and instead of running after them you chose to back off and just let them do whatever makes them happy. Have we ever thought of that kind of true love, even for once?
I myself is guilty of not thinking about this kind of love, not until I met this fine young man. I was also a dream believer that once I find true love that person will also love me in return and we will live happily ever after. I’ve been on this quest for 10 years. I have turned down opportunities that comes my way ‘coz I really wanted to know and experience true love, it was somehow my short term goal. In every relationship I have, I always expect it would last , until I can say this is true love because it lasted for a long time. I thought it’s true love when everyone is against our relationship, if it is against all odds but we chose to stay together and be with each other despite of it all. Unfortunately, it doesn’t apply in reality.
With this man I fell in love with recently, my experienced taught me a lot about the real meaning of true love and true happiness. A kind of love that is selfless , patient, kind and putting someone else's needs before ours. I thought with all the experiences I had taught me what true love is, but then again I thought wrong. When I was still on the peak of my feelings for him, I did everything I could to be with him and even took advantage of my closest friends in terms of money just to make sure he stays with our group and I get to see him most of the time. Until I realized that all my efforts were not appreciated , as if it was just nothing for him. During that time when I feel that all my efforts are taken for granted, I always cry myself to sleep. I always pity myself, but after all the crying time, I always go back to that stage where I do everything I can to see him and let him see me as the right girl for him. Until it came to a point when I realize I needed a break, away from him. Fortunately it was vacation time and I had enough time to be out of the city and him out of my thoughts. It took me a while to break my usual morning routine.
Before , each time I open my eyes in the morning, my 1st thought was HIM. Whenever I am in the shower or while getting ready for school all the what if’s, all the unbelievable imagination and expectations are all in my head with the wish and hope that it will all come true.
During the time that I was away from him, I had self-realization and came up with this 5 things I need to do for myself:
1. Love yourself.
2. Do not expect.
3. Have faith.
4. Be happy.
5. Motivate and inspire others.
LOVE YOURSELF
2 easy words that we often say when someone we know is heartbroken and needs to move on. But have we even apply these simple words in our daily lives? Do we even understand the true meaning of loving ourselves?
“Find yourself first…like yourself first…love yourself FIRST…& friendship & love will naturally find YOU.”
― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass
If we just know ourselves , if we are just true and honest to ourselves, if we just like who we really are and if we just love ourselves first, Friendship and Love will naturally find its way to us. The reason why we always start on a wrong foot in making decisions when it comes to love ,it is because we have inculcated in our minds that for us to feel complete we should be loved and be accepted by the society. It is an absolute misconception that whenever we feel that our parents or siblings does not love us completely we automatically reach to the outside world , look for friends or a partner that may love us in return and can make us feel complete.
