Thoughts of Grace

Thoughts 0001

When did women become so fixated on being pursued, chased and sought out? When did we give up, throw down the towel and push aside the option of being the initiator. When did we resign to the possibility of expressing an interest in dating, or spending time with someone one on one intentionally. When did we conclude it's unheard of or unacceptable. When did we hit such a level of pride and self assurance that we decided we should never put forward the first move, send the first text or make the first phone call. When did we form such a great fear, distaste and objection to honest upfront confrontation. The most commonly heard conversation in young adult women in the church is that there is a severe lacking or shortage of men willing to ask them on dates.. But I dare you to strike a match in the gas tank by asking how many of those women have approached a man they are interested in dating, and invited him out themselves. The percentage is low, I assure you - and the hypocrisy has never been higher. When did we decide that the possibility of rejection was worth the robbery of relational intention. As women we are just as responsible, just as capable and just as equipped as men are to approach dating confidently. Too many women are focusing on the story, and less on the glory. Not everyone is designed for a hand written, sweep you off your feet, walk on the beach, kiss in the moonlight type of pursuance. Not everyone is designed for perfectly planned step by step romances. Some of us were designed to get out of the boat, run up the mountain and get what we want without hesitation.. But we're busy waiting for Prince Charming to walk through the doors and take our hand gently. If bitterness about dating is taking up a large part of your thoughts and emotions - but you're sitting stagnant and refusing to step out yourself; don't be surprised if nothing happens. It's time for women to take back their 50% of responsibility for the dating culture, because the reality is, we are not victims of a no-date-epidemic, we are co-creators of it.