The Evolution of Bullying

Bullying . What truly is bullying? When I hear the term Bullying , I think about the kid in the back of the class that everyone constantly talks about. And one day he decides its too much for him to handle , so he takes his own life . This happens nowadays , but the stories are a little bit different. A young girl , who has no friends, feels the pressure to fit in . So she does what she can to appease the "popular" group. The "popular" group are full of stuck up kids who have nothing better to do than judge other people. For what ? To fill a void in which their own insecurities have created a gaping whole? The young girl soon becomes a victim of cyberbullying , the "popular" the ones she called her friends , have now turns on her and are exposing her secrets that she  once believed that she  could trust them with. Now, she feels that taking her life is the only option , the only way to escape the judgement. She doesn't tell her parents what's going on , she simply just excludes herself . Many times parents just write off their kids behavior as "Oh, Its just a teenage phase". So no one suspects it when the little girl takes her own life . 

I personally have never experienced "bullying" , when it pertains to the examples I used above. But that doesn't mean I'm not aware of what happens to the kids who are affected . Because although I have never been through anything like that , I know that kids are cruel and wanting to be accepted is a powerful thing. Most kids will do nearly anything to be "popular", or to fit in with everyone else. And I'm not going to sit here and say "Tell and Adult", "Take a Stand", or "Tell Your Parents", because if you were comfortable with doing that bullying wouldn't exist. My solution is if you don't feel like you can talk to someone , do something you love to express your feelings. For example if you love to draw let your feelings out on the canvas or if you love to write, write your feelings down . Therefore , now instead of you associating bullying with the bad , it can be associated with something you love. Love is more powerful than hate. Always. And that love for whatever , can help you overcome any circumstance. But just know that the feeling of wanting to be accepted will always be there. You will always want the next person to like you , or want to fit in with a certain crowd , but you cant let that fuel your life. You must choose who and what you want to be . So my words of encouragement to anyone being bullied is : Wanting acceptance is a human flaw, but needing acceptance is a human choice.