How not to fall in love with a Jerk

Chapter 1 - Dating 101

I am 28 years old, career driven and ambitious. I don't have any time for any love life since I am focused now in my career as a Psycho Therapist.  Also, I'm currently on my last year of my Masters Degree in Psychology so I definitely don't have time for any extra-curricular activities. I even do not have time for my family.  I seldom attend family gatherings since I am more passionate with my work.  I value my clients and I drown myself with other people's problems so I can hide my own.

But don't get me wrong, I had been in relationships before.  It's just that I think that it is not a priority right now.  I have been single for almost 2 years now.  My last relationship for 5 years ended because I do not have time for my boyfriend and if you are going to ask me if I am regretting it, I do not. Part of me is still wishing that it could have lasted but I decided that it was the best for both of us.  

I was happy with my single life:

I eat what I want, alone - Which I really, prefer, mind you.

I watch TV alone - Which I prefer the most because I can switch channels any time I want.

I laugh and cry alone - Which suits me .because people may misinterpret me.

You may all think that I might be crazy given that I have to encounter a lot of people with problems everyday but I am really happy with my life.  My simple happy life.  And I love my alone time. It makes me think more, it makes me guarded.

This happy feeling and contentment changed when I attended my cousin's wedding. 

I was one of the bride's maid and was very excited that finally, my eldest cousin is now getting married.  She's 35 years old and she's an amazing woman.  

Sometimes, wedding makes me yawn but I am not really sure why, but on her wedding, I am all eyes and ears.  

While she was walking in the aisle, I was looking at her happy glowing face.  And when I looked at the groom, he was crying.  Tears of pure love.  

Pure Love.  

I began to question my love-- if I ever experienced that kind of love.  And it hit me hard. Even though I had several relationships before, I felt that I haven''t experience that kind of love.

And my journey in finding that kind of love started when I was set up by my cousin to several blind dates.

I am not into the idea of multiple dating, but now I realized how my age is hanging by a thread and I need to get hitched soon.

And since I'm used to writing details of my patients, I treat all the men I meet in the literature I know most-- Psychological Analysis Report.

I listed all the names of the men I am currently dating and write all the information I can gather so I can choose among those men that fits my personality.

And yes, I overanalyze everything. I want to be a step ahead in everything I do. And I don't want to end up wasting my time with a wrong person.

Date #1 - Marco Enriquez:

He is 29 years old. Working as an Associate in a Law firm. He is the only child and a Mama's boy. He is tall, with fair complexion and cute. His eyeglasses suits him perfectly. He studied in a prestigious school and he is very smart.

What I like most about him is being candid and straight to the point. I also love it when he smiles because of his cute dimples.

Our first date is not that extravagant but he did not bore me that is very much important. Because I get easily bored.

He keeps checking on me every 5 minutes which I think is a turn off. But let's see if ours will progress.

Date #2 - Stephen Lee

When he was introduced to me, I was in awe. Because he is really good looking. He is a year younger than me, which I find embarrassing. But I would definitely say that he is fun to be with. He is the youngest of 3 and I can still see that he is a happy go lucky person.

I think he just wants to play around but I still want to consider him.

Date #3 - Philip Garcia

He is a businessman. And a millionaire at the age of 20 years old. He is 33 right now. He admitted that he was just fooling with women before but right now he wants to settle down.

I don't like him at first because he is very arrogant but eventually I saw that he has a good heart when he invited me to be part of his foundation for children.

He is an only child as well but he is neither close to his parents. His mother left when he was 4 years old and his father is currently living in Canada with his stepmother.

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After typing all the information I had, I clicked saved. So far, I am liking Stephen the most. He is quite challenging for me. But if we are going to base it on my ideal guy, Philip will be on the top of my list. With Marco, I'm still unsure because I wanted to have my own space and the fact that he is checking on me every time, it's unnerving.

I only date every Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays. So when I started dating those three men I decided that I only date Marco every Fridays, Stephen every Saturdays and Philip every Sundays.

They all know that I am dating other men. And I also know that they are also dating other women on the side. Except for Marco who keeps telling me that I am the only woman he's currently dating.

It was a Monday when I decided to cancel all my appointments for the day. And decided to go pamper myself the whole day. While I was resting after the massage, I received a text message from.an unknown number.

Hello there. I saw your number in a social website and I found your profile pic interesting. Wanna meet?

I tried remembering if I did post any thing in the web and I remember my cousin telling me she'll be opening an account for me in a dating site. What the f*ck.

I didn't know why but I agreed meeting him in a Cafe near my place. Apparently he lives nearby. But I waited for him for a long time. And when I decided to leave because I thought that he was just a bluff, I heard someone calling my name. I turned around and I was surprised when I saw him.

He is not that tall. But he is taller than me. He is definitely a head turner and he has a very good physique.

"You are late" I told him.

"I am very sorry something came up. I'm Jon by the way"

"I prefer to be called as Bree"

"Nice meeting you Bree. So what do you want to do?"

"You tell me. You're the one who asked to meet me here"

"Are you done with dinner?"

"Yes"

"I see. Let's have a drink then. My place or your place?"

Drink? At 5pm? Are you kidding me?

"At my place" I even didn't know why I even considered hanging out with this guy but I didn't have any thing in mind. We split the bill for the liquors we bought and we went to my place.

I know that his intention is just to get into my pants and I don't mind. I was in the mood today. Oops, a slip of my tongue. Erase, erase.

Honestly, it has been a year since I was intimate with someone. I avoid having intimacy with the men I date because I wanted to establish friendship first before anything else. And I think what I have with this guy is just temporary and I don't think that after this, we will still meet.

And so, we started drinking and I find it comfortable talking to him. I've discovered that he is a gym instructor, which answered my amazement on his good physique.

We were laughing the whole time and I can feel that he is now touching my leg. I stood up and went to get more ice and when I returned to the sofa, he kissed me. I muffled and he continued kissing me.

The liquor is getting to me and I started returning his kisses until it blacked out.