1-Smart Phones
We are the first generation of smart technology which means we have a lot of choices and options in every field of life.We have a variety of food like Italian, Chinese, Indian, Mexican and many more.We have access to all kinds of music and films, same goes with every aspect of our life.It is our blessing and curse.
We have the same kind of variety in opposite gender.The world has become a market of bodies and we can swipe right or left through them.Hence it is a difficult choice to marry.
In the 90s, people knew fewer people. They could choose from class fellows, cousins or neighbors.The choice was less but the content level was high.
2-Decision-making
In Pakistani household, parents don't stress much over kid's ability to make right decisions.Instead, we have a very vague kind of "saadat mandi" (good child).A good son is who let his parents decide for him, he studies the subjects of their choices, he marries to please them, makes babies, mostly sons, to please them and in many cases divorces his wife for his parents.Now, this is the most self-harming pattern that can ever be.
Now, these indecisive kids are exposed to overwhelming social media.They can peep into their friend's spouses life, colleague's personal lives.Most of all they can scroll through loads and loads of profiles, black, brown and white all kind of races are one click away.
To add salt to misery there are dating apps of all kinds.There is TInder for proper dating, Ginder for gays,Sudy for sugar daddy/mamas or babies, Travel buddies for travel companions and many more.These are increasing day by day.
In this era, if someone is married to a cousin whom he used to call baji and whose only merit is that she is phupho's daughter, he will find it very hard to stay content with his life.Same goes for girls.After dating the coolest gentlemen in the town, it is hard to settle down with some cousin who lives in some remote village.
3-Evolution
You must be thinking why?Why us?Why other generations lived better lives than us?Well, they didn't.We are a part of evolution.Civilization is constantly changing, it is a river that never stops.It flows with time and us, a human has to cope with it.
Time has changed and we should move along otherwise we will be crushed under it's heavy wheels.
After us, the next generation will learn from our experiences and they may walk or avoid our foot-steps but they will have their own problems.Life will test them too.
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