I really don't know what is the Formula of Being single. I just know it is Happy to be single, But others think of it as a curse or a BIG Wall for their Happiness, But as for me, it is not.
As I've said, It is happy being single, Why?
First of all, you don't have to worry about anything, No one is actually prohibiting you (besides your parents, of course) to do things that you wanna do, Like partying, hanging out with your friends on the Opposite gender. No one will get jealous, So you don't have to worry about someone who might get mad at you or even yell at you because of Hanging out with the people You want to hang-out with.
Being single Means having the freedom to talk to whoever you wanna talk to, Like friends on the opposite gender, Without having the feeling that someone will get hurt or jealous or whatsoever. You can choose without someone being jealous, others call it "Flirting" , but sometimes, in the context of love, "flirting" is not a sin or a bad thing to do, unless You're flirting with someone in a relationship, THAT is Bad Flirting.
And one more, you are free of the pain that can be caused by being in a relationship. Many say that this is just being coward or afraid to take chances, but no, I think of it as being smart. In fact you are just giving yourself the time, preparation or LOVE for the that ONE RIGHT PERSON you can be really be with, The person whom you will give all your time, love and effort.
Well, I can say that is the advantages of being single.
How about disadvantages?
I can't really say it is a disadvantage, but perhaps can be called "lacking" part of your life. Like, you have all the things that you want, House, cellphone, car or whatsoever but don't have a Partner, or maybe you want someone to spend your time with, besides your friends. Humans were created by God as Social beings, With a great capacity of love and compassion, maybe this is one good reason to put that Being single is sometimes sad or a BIG WALL for happiness.
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Well how can you really be sure if the relationship you will enter will be good?
Step 1: Think first. Better think first if the relationship you're entering or going in to is Right. Because you can't be really sure if that's just caused by some chemicals that run through your head or sometimes referred to as "lust"(libog in tagalog), Think first, so you can prevent yourself in being hurt or prevent yourself in hurting other person.
Rule 1: Be Sure.
Step 2: Test. It is just like in school, how can you know if what you know is right if You don't Test it? So you have to test if it is really deserving of your time. If not, you might as well return to step 1 and do it all over again.
Rule 2: Make it Sure.
Step 3: Apply. After the first and second Steps, you are ready to apply it ! Go for it and Im sure you'll be happy.
Rule 3: Really, Really Sure.
Have you noticed why I put the "Sure" word in every rule/steps? Because most of the time, it is the one "Lacking" in entering a relationship. Yes, Love is already there, but are you really sure this is the RIGHT one? Or are you having Doubts about it? If yes, then you are not ready yet to enter in that kind of relationship, Prepare yourself first, And Im sure, You'll be really happy.
Steps looks easy right? But belive me, it takes a really long time to even reach Step two, but as for it, You will be really sure that you are making the right choice. I made it simple because, some other things are You're the only one to discover. GOODLUCK ! :)
Thank you and Good Day ! :)
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Laceste, Jeran D.
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