Arranged Marriage - The Poker Of Real Life

Coffee Beans & Tea Leaves

The final show down is always such an exciting thing, pumping up our stagnant blood and nerve innervations ! The whole entrouage is suddenly focussing on the main show stopper and their whereabouts. The entire green room chaos and the pre-preparatory hustle before the wee hours !
Are you all getting the feels of the analogy im making here ? Probably not ! I will try to fill in some sense & some humour in this segment here -
The actual man hunt process is something corelative in terms of its procedure & impact to what I have mentioned above.
Post our graduation all of us are wanting to apply for our dream jobs and doing interview rounds, auditions, understanding the worksace requirements, reading up stuff etc etc. This concept of going for an arranged marriage has a similar pre work up methodology. You have a few boxes to tick in that are your top 10 priorities that you have been looking for in your prospective groom/bride. The irony here is only this much that these boxes dont have any substantially quantifiable names that you are looking for ! So saying that i want my partner to be :
- Loving, caring, educated, visually appealing or belonging to a particular physical & mental dimension or say matching to some fiction i have created for him or her in my head.....
- These things form a part of one's superficial makeup or are like the unsaid ingredients to your desired partner preference and more importantly are difficult to gauge at first sight. It usually justifies the quote of
- " All That Glitters Is Not Gold " or " Dont Judge A Book By Its Cover "

" There s a difference between i want this vs i need this where the NEED is our survival instinct and WANT is our humanitarian response to any thing "

You may want a beautiful or a handsome life partner who is well cultured and financially independent BUT you may actually need a person who is good for your soul and will fullfill your vaccum !
When you go and meet a person there is vibe that is generated from that person which colides with your own vibe & when this happens either there is a friction that is generated or a magnetism created towards your soul !
Its very important for you to be extremely unprejudicial and clean slated before you meet any individual. ( Go without any preconceived notions ) only then can you take the reflection they mirror, which is unbiased and will help you bond with them or apart from them !
All of these intense & life changing decisions happen at a coffee shop ! Hence cafes play a pivotol role in your marriage - make sure you invite them for your wedding. I have literally had one attendant at Starbucks who almost saw me everyweek with a different boy and over a period of time we became friends. Sometimes she would only tell me let this one go - not soo okay - or this one looks nice sit longer ! (Hilarious moments we all have while doing these arranged marriage meets)
The coffee beans and tea leaves which are every individuals perk up needs of the day suddenly go for a toss giving you a jitter & anxiety instead of doing its usual chore of calming you down and simultaneously pepping you up !
Coffee had always been my staple diet and almost a necessity next to roti, kapda & makan. To my agony, the memories i now sync to coffee are just related more so to all the funny or embarrassing events that happened while i was in this process of Man Hunt, thereby interviewed or interviewing some or the other potential candidate.
In an Indian setup like ours, the prospective arranged marriage participants are sent to fill up & fill in the questionnaires for marriage to see if their basic compatibilities hold any match or no to the opposite persons checklist. ( The Marrital Form ). All this happens usually at a coffee shop where you actually see boys & girls sharing awkward silences and sips of coffee to bridge the gap of strangerhood.
I personally have met over half a century and above number of boys and explored a new cafe each time ( that being my only exciting part of the meet ) ! Technically we are not allowed to talk to unknown people all our lives but one fine day we are supposed to marry one such of them. Bravo ! Such be the ironies of life. I dont intent to sound like an aimless protagonist protesting againt age old traditions, as some things are done the way they are done and have their own subtle benefits to acclaim !
So lets actually talk about the main chapter of this book. The very reason i thought of penning down something was to share and narrate some of the hilarious to horrendous stuff that happens over a coffee. Trust me that is the spectrum ! The mental turmoil pre & post coffee that actually makes you start detaching yourself from something you loved all this while : Dear Coffee !
Now i now why Nescaffe said,
" A lot can happen over a coffee " as well as Bru said,
" Bru se hoti hai khushiya shuru " !