" Hey Dad! My boyfriend Josh is coming over,is that okay?"
"oh sure honey"
^ that right there, will never happen, like never, unless your parents are in some kind of locally made drugs or they are also drunk...
Our parents are our protectors, our guidance counselors, our anger management psychology type people, that are suppose to help us. Sometimes our parents are the one to cause all the above. As a teenager myself, I can be able to understand that, yes, yes, they drive us CRAZY!
For instance, you have a guy friend, he's freaking horrible boyfriend material, but you guys talk and call each other and whatever, but o my God, let your mom find you one time talking to this boy and you instantaneously have a boyfriend and the quarreling begins, uhm, excuse me, mom thanks for thinking I have no taste in boys, the guy has a freaking nose the size of a Christmas Tree decoration, but he's a good friend. Another undesirable occurrence by our parents is the fact that they think we're in the phone too much, but they have no idea what we are doing on the phone, they assume that we're texting when I'm doing exactly what I'm doing right now.....talking about them on my book. Let me tell you a little story that happened one night.
I was up late on night, and as in late I mean 11 o clock watching "endless love" and well finishing off my other novel that is due to come out by the end of October. So there I was watching my movie and thinking about was to end my book when my best friend Sara sent me a text, to call her,cause she's needs someone to talk to. Now lemme pause right there, before I go any further in this story, let me just in a nutshell,tell you why Sara is in this dilemma.
Sara is a 18 year old, east Indian, 4"12 brilliant individual but the background that she comes from is ridiculous. Her Father is a drug addicted and her mother tries but loses it sometimes and beats on her, she has a lot of brothers and sisters. Her mother tries but it's not enough.
Now that, you now her situation a bit, let's continue my story shall we, after she messages me to call her, the first thing I did was to check the credit balance in my phone, to my surprise, well not exactly surprise. cause I knew that I didn't have credit, I just wanted to check to see if God had out any in, anyways moving on. I decided I was going to use the landline to call her, it was a risk I would have to take, cause I know I live with crazy bitches. I got the phone and I called, when she picked up, she immediately began to tell me was happened, mind you, this is around 11:23 not even that late. The things she said broke my heart, I won't state what exactly she said because of confidentiality, but it was sad. Now! This is when I realize, parents/ Guardians have no clue on what their doing. My aunt wakes up, I'm I'm the living room computer on lap, phone by ears and cell phone on laptop, on thigh. She sees me, and starts off " Don't you know what time it is?" "All day, All night, you on this phone and computer" " You never listen " and so on and so forth, you know, the usual. So sara says like " Girl, go,I'm fine" as a friend, heck no! I'm not going to go anywhere, when you're in need of someone to talk to. Minutes after my big cousin comes and says "You heard what mommy said? " like the ass I am I go "yeah,i coming just now" she goes to the back and tells her I'm on the phone and blah blah blah. She starts saying " i know she's be using the phone late at nights" "I don't know who she's be calling" "she's a disrespectful little girl" again,the usual. I'm there laughing, not to be disrespectful but just to know how assuming these people are.
First of all, that night was the first time, I've used the phone. Secondly, I wasn't doing any wrong, so why was it wrong? I was helping someone, a girl. I told her I had to go, and I sat for a while and thought about this situation more. For starters, I'm a teenager, I'm 17, I'm going to stay up late, I am going be on my cell phone, I am going to do normal teenage stuff. What I don't get however is can they not be satisfied with me just wanting to stay up? I could be like other teenagers that are wilder than a gorilla in a forest surrounded by others of his kind,but I'm not, all I'm doing is staying up late, and doing normal,descent things. Another situation I don't understand is even if I go to bed, it's not like I'm going to sleep anyways. I could be in my bed, but stay up until 4 am. I don't really understand what is suppose to happen if you send me to bed, what will you accomplish? Cause I'm still going to be awake, so by you sending me to bed doesn't solve or make anything happen.
My life was different from Teenage movies, and I'm sure you all reading can say "Amen" to that, but let's continue, I didn't live with my mom, my mom was in a different country but I spoke to her almost all the time, I couldn't talk about my teenage stuff with my aunt or cousins, cause they weren't approachable for conversations that the ones girls normally have with their mothers, so when I was about 13 years old, I decided I was going to find a way to resolve my dilemmas by myself, so I had dialogues with myself and I eventually figured things out for myself, you may think that's crazy but that's how I got so far. Yes I would talk to my mom but things that was hard to tell over the phone, I would use my mind and conscience to answer my own troubles and find resolutions. Try it, I'm sure you'll find better answers than if you ask someone, cause only you know what can make you happy :)
After about an hour or so, I decided to go to bed, and what did I do when I went to bed? Not Sleep! so the sending me to bed commend, serves no purpose parents. As teenagers we are going to do stupid shit but it's basically what we are suppose to do, it's why it's called " teenage years" these few years, is when we do stupid shit and learn from them.
This brings me back to the beginning, parents / Guardians think they know what they're doing, when they have no clue, they behave like they were never 17,18,19, but even if they do remember they were once that age, they think that you will do the same stupid shit that they did when they did stupid shit , when that's not true,cause we are all different people. Parents are special in both ways... XD
