FALLING INLOVE
It is a mystery why we fall in love.
It is a mystery how it happens.
It is a mystery when it comes.
It is a mystery why some love grows and some love fails.
You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore than take the life out of the experience. Just as life itself is more than the some of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body, love is more than the some of interest and attractions and commonalities that two people share. And just as life is a gift that comes and goes in it shown time so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its way.
Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life, the gift of love will come to you in full flower, and you will take hold of it and celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty. This is the dream we all share. More often, it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on.
When this happen to young people, they too often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift that freely given and a gift that just a freely, moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on. They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other persons no longer love them or they try to get their lover to change, thinking that if some small things are different, love will bloom gain. They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and start a new life together their love will grow.
They try anything to give meaning to what was happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in the sea of mystery. You need to know this about love, and to accept it. You need to treat what it brings to you with kindness.
If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you. Be gentle to yourself, there is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart. If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love him/her, feel honored that love comes and called your door; but gently refused the gift you cannot return, do not take advantage; do not cause pain. How you deal with love, is how you deal with you, and all your hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives, and ways are different. If you fall in love with another, and he/she falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, let it go.There is a reason and there is meaning. You will know in time. Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes to your life.
Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and growing. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace love when it arrives and give it away when it comes to it. But if LOVE chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your love one, there is nothing you can do & there is nothing you should do. Love always be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.
IF YOU KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN, IT WILL COME AGAIN.
