Never had I imagined having a life like this. Where there’s your so called family and all they want is your sympathy. You try relating to them but you just can’t, simply because they won’t let you. It’s like every one of them is satisfied with his or her standing in life, that’s why their ears are clogged up and closed to others.
What would you give just to have a normal life with normal people who loves you and accepts you for who you are?
We all have issues of our own. Challenges come and go, obviously, confronting it would be the way to go and having your family to support you through it is just totally uplifting. After all, what are families for? Oh sure, like everyone goes for that. Well, I don’t think so. The possibility of someone backing you up through harsh circumstances is about, with the scale of 1-10, 1! Sadly, there are no perfect families. You see, parents should give enough time and attention to their children so they won’t grow up to be attention seekers who are avoided by, almost everyone. Not knowing parenthood is one weakness a married couple should be proud of. Because it only starts once you have a baby in your arms and it’s about raising and teaching your children how the world works, also preparing them on facing obstacles in life.
One more thing parents do, is that they keep telling their children they know what’s best for them, which is true, but not anymore during your 30’s. By that time, they would have already gotten promoted or have a house of their own. It is so important that parents tend to their children’s needs and help them get the proper education. And it’s up to them to finish their studies and finally become role models for the next generation.
This simply means that education is the best legacy parents could give their children. I would salute to that! It’s certainly not an overnight thing you could learn, because once you’ve motivated yourself in attaining your stability in life, you won’t be able to ask for more rather than contentment. We just crave and crave for more new experiences and happenings, which are not entirely necessary. So we’ll have to discipline ourselves and try to be more focused on some aspects in life that most certainly isn’t beyond our imagination. Frankly speaking, contentment is something anyone seldom finds. People can be stubborn, just stubborn enough to make you feel unwelcome, unwanted and unworthy of almost anything. Yes, that’s true. We all have insecurities to deal with. So what everyone should do is to give more importance to life itself and learn to live with his or her own personal problems and insecurities. At least that’s one way of looking at it.
Here’s another fact, no one ought to fixate himself or herself to anyone. It’s such an obsession, an over addiction even. Another way of putting it is that parents should learn to trust their children and give them enough space and guidance in finding their own identities. For instance, spoiling is different from patronizing. Spoiling leads children from nice, sweet little angels to pesky little brats, while children who are patronized are given the chance to become rebels. They want to show everyone that they are already independent and could take care of themselves, and once they’ve proven this, they start being reckless, and from then on, they’ve already forgotten all about the word Help.
Most people think life is unfair. As for a fact, nowadays, almost everything is. Children don’t appreciate what their parents are doing for them, and sometimes parents can’t understand what their children are trying to tell them. It must be nature’s way of telling us that things have to be balanced and that we should not intervene. Just like the amount of love parents have for their children, which can never be measured but should be somewhat in the highest level of love someone could offer someone.
Oftentimes, some people tend to dominate others, which is probably why there is lack of self-esteem. Obviously, you have to struggle to be more confident. Parents usually protect their young ones from any rough experiences, which at all times isn’t acceptable or advisable. Children should strive for their own good too. They should be out there, absorbing the world as it is and figuring out how to handle things on their own. Moreover, children could just frolic around the entire day but that doesn’t mean they won’t be able to comprehend reality. One major reason why children and parents sometimes don’t complement each other is because of pride and narrow mindedness. Then, after an entire argument, no one even has the initiative to make the first move of interceding. It’s not really that easy to do, especially with all the commotion and misunderstanding, and some people are just too conceited that they don’t even know what’s really going on around them. Discrimination is something family members should not throw at each other. It’s not as if everyone’s the same.
A family united by love continues to be a family, otherwise, they only have the discretion whether to repudiate with each other. As a matter of fact, no one should be so demanding for money, love, time and attention. All of these are given willingly, although it may be too much to handle for some people, but most definitely not everyone.
Everything is unpredictable. You can vaguely see what’s about to happen. The truth is everyone’s entitled to his or her own opinion. It could be totally exasperating or could militate other people and realize the entire nitpicking about them and might even do something to clear it all up. On the other hand, it could just be plain hokum.
A family doesn't make you feel like a nobody, actually it’s the other way around. They ought to be the ones to help boost your personality and morale. Comfort is one thing you should feel around them, otherwise, you wouldn’t know how to act around them.
It’s really apish; the way people give false impressions with someone they just met. It’s inappropriate to judge a book by its cover; there you keep asking yourself “Who the heck was that?!”Due to this act of insecurity, it’s not impossible for someone to make a big deal out of it. For instance, you can start getting to know someone by relating with them and showing them how interested you are to know the real person that lies within.
A family should know every member better than anyone else, but this doesn’t mean you should get in anyone’s way. Don’t even think you could wear someone else’s shoe, even if they’re family. So don’t go for the saying, “If the shoe fits, wear it.” It’s totally rude; besides, you could be close to someone; just don’t take advantage of the person. So take care of your family; you share the same bloodline and they can never be replaced.
