People often view something as owed to someone they helped. Most often seek something in return when they showed kindness to somebody. When these people couldn't be able to meet the standards set before them, it will just cause pain and regrets. You will suddenly feel used and abused. Maybe some people treat you that way, but have you ever asked yourself if your mindset is right?
Before, I really had great expectations with my friends since I buy them whatever they want, I do their favors, I let them copy my homeworks, I do their projects, I help them out of the mess they do and most of all, I listen to them when they needed someone the most, all because I don't want to lose them and hoping that they will do the same thing to me.
Time came, when I badly needed someone, they were not present. I needed someone to help me on my projects, but there is no one available. I needed someone to listen to my rants and problems, but no one even replied my chats. That time, I felt so used and abused. I thought of them being fake friends. I uttered hurtful words behind their backs to relieve myself from the anger that stirs inside me.
But one day, the Lord told me something through my pastor,
"A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother."
Proverbs 18:24 (Esv)
From there, I realized that not everyone is trustworthy and I should stop expecting to all people. Because when you stop expecting to people, you will see things in a very positive and the best way it can be. From there, I stopped pleasing people and the Lord blessed me with genuine friends.
Remember that the people closest to our lives, can hurt us the most.
What to do in the midst of this mental battle?
To avoid hurting yourself because of these great expectations of yours, you must first set your mind that "Expecting too much will be your greatest downfall." It's comparable to an exam given to you. You're too complacent that you're going to pass the test because your professor told the class, Hey class, I prepared easier equations this time. But, as you received the paper, you have answered nothing. It's because you expected a lot and did not study for the subject yesternight.
Bear in mind that no one is perfect. Not all people can return what you have given them. It is best to not expect to someone anymore and let them do things on their own. Just do the other way around instead, EXPECT MORE TO GOD.
"Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known."
Jeremiah 33:3 (Esv)
God is faithful to what He says. Unlike the world that leaves, God never forsakes. When you have no one to depend on, God is just waiting for you to call upon his name. Prayer and fellowship with God will comfort you.
As you call upon the Lord, have faith and believe. Expect more on God for He will do something great in your life!
"Whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, if you have faith."
Matthew 21:22 (Esv)
Turn your eyes to God and not on this world because in God, YOU WILL NEVER FAIL.
Great expectations in the world will scar you but great expectation to God will never hurt you.
You just have to believe.
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Conquering the War
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