You will be okay again

The King of Swords

Girl are you happy or what right now, you are in cloud nine I tell you, for once in your life you don't have to worry about is he going to answer my call, where is he, does he love me, is he going to call.  I mean, this man that you will meet around your mid twenties to your late twenties will be the one, yes finally you have met the man of your dreams, the man of beyond your dreams, why I say that, well because your dreams kept on changing every time you met the wrong man that made you think him not calling you back was normal, him always seeing you only when it agrees to him plans was normal, lets just say this King of Swords will show you how all that you had began to accept as normal was so abnormal in a loving relationship.

Well he will do all these nice loving things and teach you new things for a certain time only, yes, you heard right.  The King of Sword is that soul mate, loving guy you can't ever imagine life without him, that best friend who comes first in everything in your life, he comes before your friends, before your family, he is suddenly your number one, your ride or die, your Bonnie and Clyde.  What I can tell you right is that who ever said that the amount of love you feel will be in equal measures to the pain you will feel, or how ever they said it, but you get the point, the deeper the love, the deeper the pain.

But fortunately for me I now have a verse in a bible that i extend to this saying, it just makes me feel so much better when I extend that quote with this verse.  The pain you have been feeling cannot compare to the joy that is coming.  In a way the deeper the love, the deeper the pain they say, but the good thing about the pain is that is does not compare at all to the joy that is coming for you.  With this hope, I have made it through many gloomy days and rest assured you will too.

Now lets talk about this King of Sword you can't stop talking about to your friends, when your friends say lets go out to lunch, you,  Okay but first let me call my man first and tell him that you guys are saying we must go out for lunch now because it's boring being in the house watching TV and talking.  Yes girl! let's talk about that King of yours.

 This man is a master of love, this is a man that will melt your heart with just a smile, he is not even looking good, but lets leave the looks out, that part you will realize later when you are the one saying it to your friends after he has done a big number to your poor heart again.  

This man studied womanology in his struggling years, growing up in a dysfunctional family, trying to make it in life and in a community that had no time for other dysfunctional families.  This man will learn you, yes you heard me right, he will learn everything about you, and make references also with all the knowledge he has accumulated over the years also, after all this man is around ten years older than you, so he has had a longer period to not find what he is looking for, not a longer period not being able to get to that successful place where he wants to be in life, to drive that new car instead of the 3rd of 4th hand car, this is what this man will read and learn about you, all the things that hurt you, that trigger you, this is the man that will love you like no other, you will be his woman. Yes finally you are somebody's also, imagine a man who finally gives you money to do your hair also, money to go out with the girls, a man who gives you a bus fare money finally, not that one who asks you to come over, but never once gives you transport money.  This man will be to good to be true, for some he may possible be it, but for others, I'm sorry girl, but you just have to pass this finally mountain before you get there, you are getting close, or that is at least what I would like to believe, i mean can it get any worst then this!  Now how this man will break your poor poor heart has a lot to do with the stage in life that you found him on, i'll simplify that for you because I know it's confusing right now, especially if that man just broke your heart recently. 

Let me guess for some of you, when you met this man, he was still trying to make a name for himself, he was not the man that he is today when he dumped you, you probably even had to kill some rats at his house house together also, and do washing together, fix up the place where you could, pushing his car when it refuses to start, cooking porridge in the mornings, all that kind of humble things.  The thing about meeting a man that is still trying to make a position in society for himself, a name for himself, while you on the other hand have a respectable recognized job in society not much but at the respected institution anyway. 

That man gets a certain recognition for just being with you, and respect, at that point in his life that counts a lot as he is establishing himself, he must be well represented also. So when his friends or new acquaintances he makes along his striving journey happen to ask him about his woman, he will mention where you work also to put that extra weight, he will even mention your promotion, or your graduations, well it justifies a lot I guess if you are not at that level of beauty, fair light skin beauty that his future success and acquaintances associate with success.  That raises some respect and status a bit to have a professionally established woman in her field. The problem with these other men as I will call them, is that they are impressed with all that you represent for them at the time of their climb, a solid home, a solid job, that will be good for getting a brand new car finance, a house finance, all those things matter a lot when a man is not at the stage to accomplish all that by himself, so when he searches for a partner, it must be a woman that can bring a lot also to the table. Because they are still establishing them themselves, so their initial attraction to you was their drive for success, psychologically it is linked somewhere in their brains, maybe they do not recognize it yet because they also really love you, falling in love with you was easy.  Now that they are secure in this relationship, you probable move in together, start sharing things, improving in statuses, buying a car, this man will work hard now in achieving his dreams, life is far better now and smoother too, the next step is to outsmart you, to be financially stable to be able to stand on his two feet without you.  now he has business, is making good money, he has savings you are not told about, he now starts to look for a woman that will be competitive towards his friends eyes and their wives,  in terms of looks because now they are the providers, their heads are now big by what they are able to do for their women now, he don't need a woman to strengthen his success now, he has that on his own now, he needs a woman that will just look good next to him now, a woman he will be everything to, by the way that woman is probably younger then you, and even a lighter fairskin. That is when your standby position starts and you just don't know it yet, possible you are the only one that does not know it.

Let me welcome you to this standby position if you have just found out recently that you have been the reigning Queen of this position unknowingly.