Spoken thoughts

GIRLS SHOULD READ THIS

STOP CRYING.

Just kidding. I know your not, but maybe you are or maybe you're here because you were bored and maybe wanted to know someone's life through wattpad. Well, here I am about to share to you what my life has been. But let me start off by addressing - GIRLS.

In my 20 years of existence, I've dated guys and have one of those "WALANG LABEL" na lalake. I've seen that this generation has evolved into something that is really different from the modern. You know, courtship, long walks on the park, harana, asking for the blessing sa parents, the respect to women, guys being gentlemen and etc. were the things that I liked. 

Today's generation is - We act like we are together but we have no label, we don't do DTR (define the relationship). Guys would make us feel like we're special, but are we? If they wanted to make us feel special, why don't we just label our relationship? 

For instance, I met a guy last 2 years ago friend of friends and I hardly knew him but honestly I was kind of interested of him because he's attractive and has a kind personality. Well after I had 2 ex boyfriends that my parents didn't even knew, I decided it was time for me to take things seriously and I wanted my mom and dad to know that I'm seeing someone at the moment. I was kind of serious of him because I liked him, he would sometimes wait for me until 7:30PM because of my night class tas e hahatid niya ako sa bahay atsaka uuwi siya sa kanila. It was almost a 2hr drive from my home which is why one of the things I appreciated from him is his effort para lang safe ako.

Well we've been seeing each other for a month and then I decided that it was time for him to meet my parents. It went well though and I'm really happy that we were sort of in a legal relationship to my parents. Months passed by and i could say that things were really good. I could see that He'd never cheat on me nor do things that could hurt me. Well the things that made me fell inlove with him was the way he would assure me. 

Such as "I've decided na ikaw na talaga. I'm gonna settle on you. I would wait for you, no matter how long pa. You can trust me that I'm not one of the guys" You know, just the assurance that any woman would want if she had a rough experiences from the past. And of course I trusted his words because who wouldn't?

But I guess that's where I went wrong. After 3 months with him, I can slowly see what he truly is. We were never official but we acted like we were boyfriend and girlfriend. And there were times we would fight but I could say that I'm more patient than him. So everytime we would argue, it would be me who would say sorry even though it wasn't my fault. Just so we'd be okay. To make the story short, He decided to take a break for a week because for certain reasons and after that he decided to end it through MESSENGER besh. What an a-hole.

The thing that went wrong for me (which I know you could learn from):

FIRST - Solid foundation.

Solid yung friendship ninyo and believe me it would be 10x better pag center is si GOD. By means of friendship, you both are really good friends, you guys know each other and respect each other. Typical friendship definition ba. Because I believe when you guys know each other really well, you know the likes and dislikes but you also have set healthy boundaries.

SECOND - DO NOT SETTLE.

To a guy who doesn't have the balls to define the relationship. Who settles for no label kung pwedi naman e label yun. For words but has no action to his words. A guy who would make you wonder where did you go wrong when you had a fight even though siya yung may kasalanan (babae ka GhoUrl). DO NOT SETTLE FOR UNCERTAINTY WHEN YOU DESERVE CERTAINTY!

THIRD - DON'T RUSH.

Great things happen to those who wait. Waiting will never be easy but it is definitely worth it. I could see this generation would want instant to things because we have a short temper to things DUH. But when you really are serious when it comes to people or things that you really desire, you wait. So do not rush things that you know could break you in the end. Akala mo lalaki lang yung nag aantay ah. Mag antay ka den. 

FOURTH - KNOW YOUR WORTH.

Ladies, I know that this generation has this mindset that if we're single. We think that we're lonely or LOSER. We would think that we are not worth it because no one likes us. But guess what? YOU ARE NOT LOSER. YOU ARE WORTH IT. You are worth the label. You are worth the replies that you have been waiting for. Yes I know it hurts to see that the guy you had been talking to suddenly lost his interest on you, those 3hours calls that turned into 3minutes and then to nothing. I know the feeling of feeling pathetic. Feeling worthless because we think that HE DOESN'T CARE. Why do you have to blame yourself for things that happened? It isn't about YOU. It's about him, his decisions in life. But we know that this isn't a one-sided story, maybe you were also too emotional for his liking. Or maybe you're just not the one for him, It hurts. But you gotta accept things that has happened.

FIFTH -  ACCEPT IT, DO NOT DWELL IN IT.

You know one of the things I've learned from pain is to accept that you are hurting. Accept that he broke your trust. Accept that at some point you also made mistakes that resulted to what it is now. Accepting things wouldn't be easy but I know it is effective to us ladies. And I'd rather choose to accept every painful thing that happened than to blame myself and dwell on it and regret it in the end. It hurts to accept at first but dwelling on it for a long time will just harm yourself. Accept that things doesn't go on your way this time and learn from it, Okay? Ok.

A/N:

That's it for this day. I hope it made sense to you and I would love to hear your thoughts and let me know what to talk about in the next chapter. Thank you, Chica!!