Poetry and Dairies Of Being Ugly

Diary of an Ugly Woman

"You're basically completely ignored. In a

lot of situations, it's fine: honestly, I

don't know how my more attractive

friends deal with the onslaught of

unwanted attention. People are always

approaching them like they owe them

something, their time, their attention,

etc. and I don't really deal with any of the

prototypical 'girl cattiness' that people

talk about. No one calls me a tease, or

easy, or attention-mongering. many of my

attractive friends get those insults lobbed

right to their faces. I don't. Women tend

to like me a lot.

But it can be lonely, too. Men just like...

don't want to talk to you. They don't see

you. Wingmen, no matter how talented

they may be in any other situation, seem

to lose all ability to conduct small talk.

For many people, I am a chore, a

roadblock. I see, here on reddit,

everywhere, this idea that all women are

"taken care of," that men buy them

drinks, hold doors open for them, help

them lift heavy suitcases and boxes, etc.

and I see that amongst my attractive

friends. None of that happens for me. I

am always served last. bartenders forget

my order.

I recognize I'm not owed anything, but

people just assume that women are

showered with that attention for being

female. No, women are showered with

that attention for being desirable. I am

not that-I do not receive that attention.

Don't get me wrong. Sometimes it's nice

to be invisible ... Sometimes I feel like I

could be an amazing criminal, because

when you're a woman, no one suspects

you, and when you're ugly, no one

remembers you.

But on the other hand, it's impossible to

find a retail job, or a desk job. No one

wants to hire an unattractive women for

front-of-house. No one wants you to be

the face of their company. And that whole

"but attractive women are treated like

they're stupid, so at least you have that

going for you" is an absolute myth.

People still talk over you, still talk down

to you, on the off-chance they talk to you

at all ...

Sometimes people are attracted to you,

and when you are not attracted to them ...

I mean, I've had people get mean.

Because there's the idea, the implication,

that you aren't going to do any better.

Sometimes from your friends. Sometimes

from the guy. Because no offense, but...

aren't you being a bit picky? You aren't

getting any younger, and there aren't

exactly many men-any men-falling over

themselves to talk to you. But in general,

you're friendzoned more than you

friendzone. My entire life is in the

friendzone. People have laughed-openly

-at the idea of dating me. To my face.

"Her? No way."

...

I've done everything humanly possible to

make myself look better, barring surgery,

and the particular architecture of my face

insures that I'm just never going to be

anyone men want to be around. And I'm

over it.