chapter 1
Find your courage and love , fully and completely .💖💘💘
Trust and live in your heart. love takes you from the head to the heart and nurtures , comforts and heals you. learn from each experience, watch the ego and choose love.
Love itself does not hurt . it is growth that hurts , the ego that stings.🎢✨
Each transformation is painful cuz the old situation is being left behind for the new. for example, when a relationship ends we lonely ,am just wondering what comes next.
Fear arises cuz the unknown is in front of us and the mind usually assumes the negative, saying things like, i'll never meet anyone else .🎠🎫
I'm too old/overweight/unattractive or i don't hve time for a new relationship .
The temptation is to shut down, open that bag of potato chips,pour that glass of wine, turn on the tv and give up on love 🎄🎊
Here are some of the keys to help you face this challenge and keep your heart opened, so that you can have the abundance of love that you want and deserve.
understand the real problem ;the real problem is the mind. fear lives in the mind and the mind wants you to hang on to a situation that is known and comfortable for you . the ego-mind resists change cuz it is afraid of losing control and feel insecure about the unpredictability of the unknown. loves means the death of the ego cuz love cannot be controlled, it can only be received and accepted. love is fragile. one day it is there, the next day it may be gone like the wind. we cannot grasp the wind in our first , we can only enjoy and appreciate it while it is there with this awareness, be present with love always and it will grow and expand as expected😘.
Surround yourself with loving friends and family; at a difficult time when you are , for a example going through a divorce on a difficult breakup your youngest child has left for college or you feel betrayed by a friend, it's important to keep your heart open to receiving love and support from friends and family. like doesn't always seem fair , but love is always there, available for us😀😘
We just have to be open to receiving it💝💖
Be careful not to expect support from people who have nothing to give u or who do not wish you well😊
Avoid them , and focus on the people you know do love you.😗
i may ask why does love hurt ? i mean , seriously, love in the movies is full of roses and sunshine, but for some reason, in real life it's very very different . being in love means in pain.😪
may be not all of the time but certainly some of the time. many people are in pain cuz they are actually being physicaly abused by their partner . i'm not going to talk about why everyday, regular, loving relationships can be painful
the answers might surprise you 😯 uncertainty about the future
when you are wondering why love hurt one of the biggest reasons is becuz of the uncertainly of all.
love is wondering and when we are falling in it , we feel soo wonderful and secure . and happy ,and we get accustomed in a way, to that security and comfort and we don't want it to go away. ''unfortunately, there are no guarantees in love'' said by malcolm assian . we know that from experience . and our hearts are so scared that the relationship will turn out like others and will cause us pain🤨
again, so, it's the not knowing the future of our relationship, how it will turn out - that causes us physical pain . the anxiety can cause stomach pain, heart ache that feels real head fog and other physical symptoms 🤮
try to know your worries about the future. no one knows what will happen and worrying about it will only take away from happiness that you are feeling right now😞
the let down
you known when are falling in love and you are soo excited that u finally met a person who had their shit together and knew how to treat you . years and tears of searching and finally you hit pay dirt !!!🎉
or did you ???🙄
when we are falling in love, all we know is that our person is perfect , but then , as time goes on our person reveal more of who he is and we learn that may be he isn't exactly who thought he was.......🎆🎊
i'm not saying that your perfect guy turned out to be a narcissistic sociopath (although that does happen sometimes) but your perfect guy does turn out to be imperfect😚
perhaps the guy who always used to hold the door for you sometimes doesn't or perhaps he has revealed himself to be a bit of slob. perhaps he spends more time at work then he used to or he plays a few more video games you might like😁
when the person we thought was perfect turns out not to be, there can be a huge let down.. it's not that they aren't perfect enough to keep around but sometimes the awakening can be a rude one . and a painful one .😣
so, what do you do when the letdown causes you pain ?? i may ask ! you take stock of the good things about your person( like the fact that he isn't a narcissistic sociopath) and if necessary , address the things that might not be so perfect if you know the video games are going to be an issue, either talk to him about how you feel about them or choose to accept them as part of your life..😋
either way, don't let the fact that your person isn't the perfect person you thought he was get in the way your happiness you probably aren't quite the person he thought you were either and still he stays
why can't life be easy and full of enjoyment on some level, these are existential questions but there also some concrete reasons why.
fortunately, the pain doesn't need to mark the end of a relationship. take stock of the things that are causing you pain and take steps to address them.🎉🎊
i may ask, are u feeling uncertain about your future ?, do you wonder about expectations ? do you struggle with the chemical crash or the weight of the baggage that you brings ? do you wonder if this imperfect person is the one for you ?🎄✨
address these things one at a time and the pain that you feel in your relationship can be managed and reduced . 💝💞
love can be wonderful and can also be painful at the same time. make sure that the balance of the two is equal and can live happily ever after 😃😀 you can do it !!!!
hey guyz !that's all for the chapter 1,i hope you got it . i have prepared this in mind for weeks and i m finally writing this out....... i hope u liked the concept very well . it maybe familiar but they are not copied , they are inspired and all words are just mixture of my imagination and thoughts from love once...........''yh love once''.........give it a chance, vote, share and comment , i love all of my ''imaginary'' readers :+)))
bye💖
BY SHUGA DADDY
EMMANUEL ADENYO
