"Love is a dance that is performed by two hearts that have the same beat"

"I keep telling myself 'never again', but I still find myself in the same situation feeling even worse than the time before." When you are secure in yourself, know what turns you on, and enjoy watching your partner watch you experience sexual pleasure, you have a highly novel relationship grounded in love. The experience of seeing and being seen fuels lust and desire. This is exactly the way you integrate healthy lust and love into your sex life. It's relational sex, not the old pornographic sex of past addictions.