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Why Are You Getting Married

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With the divorce rate on the rise, especially amongst the black Africans, the question lingering in my mind is WHY? Why is it becoming more and more difficult to keep marriages intact? Is it because people get married for wrong reasons or with unrealistic expectations? 

It is for this reason that I started the conversation about this issue and the need for people to pause and think. So, if it is your desire to get married one day or you are already preparing to get married, why do you really want to get married? If you were to discover something that negatively impacts the trust you have on your future husband or wife, would you still marry them? If so, why? And if not, why not? If you are married already, can you answer the question why did you want to get married?All Rights Reserved

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A Beautiful Journey (Completed)✔

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