I know I'm an introverted person and also a very emotional one. Since my childhood, I've been reserved and was not hugged or cared for properly. Some of you would say it's a bit harsh and unthankful or you are thinking too much but this is what it is and accepting what is there and what you had felt is the actual realization of your true identity. I remember a lot of things from my childhood and mostly lonely memories where I was all alone by myself. For some of you, this might seem like the best thing but for others, they would fall in another category. Since I know who I am and I have a gift of accepting things even if it's a bad one. I feel acceptance solves a lot of future problems that you would have faced. I don't know what I wanted to express with this, I guess, how I have to accept that when you feel sad or hurt and you soo do know that you have to stop happening it and you feel bad if it is not going in your direction. There is this desire to change someone you care about and you try to bring them close to you and you try to do stuff that you don't even want to do. Because of this desire, you try to control people. This is very difficult but you have to accept and also you have to prioritize yourself first. You have to be assertive when necessary and you have to set boundaries. It might sound selfish but it should be like that you do care about the near and dear ones but you have to now and then accept that you are the top priority for yourself. I now realize that when you are the most important person for yourself then the same goes for the next person and when they want to do the things that would not be satisfactory to you but it must be very important for them and that is what they want to do it. That might give them more happiness. So, why not to understand this from your perspective. Yeah, that sounds like a complete thought. You have to try and accept it, this is a journey for everyone don't try to pave your path on to the others. -- AD