What is OUR reality ? Is it not what we perceive to be OUR reality ? Is it not OUR truth ? Is it not OUR pain ? What is it and what has it been ? True we are faced with daily trials but are we not trials ourselves ? A bitter man is aware of not only his doings but the doings of others and hold him and them accountable but a man filled with Joy Knows and forgives himself and others who are to be held accountable . Consider this, You are to become who you are through lessons to be learned you exist to not exist when life turns .