Although the world is a hard place sometimes, and people are mean breaking us down. It is hard not to allow that to harden us to the point of not being able to allow people in even if we want to. Although valid as we may be in our thinking, we have to stay above the lower frequencies that those that hurt us lie, and stay whole for when we meet someone who is on the higher frequency with us. There's magic to be found there, but it is earned for our strength to stay whole through the swamps.