So, you have decided you want to dip your toe into the world of BDSM. First of all: Congratulations. BDSM has gotten a quite skewed rep because of bad media portrayals (please, for the love of your vagina, retire your reproduction of Fifty Shades) and pervading taboos that linger across the sexual unknown. BDSM isn't always simply fetish equipment and handcuffs (even though it totally can be that in case you need it!). It's simply a clearly great way to learn greater about what your sexual preferences are. By creating a finite set of rules and restrictions, you could empower yourself to sexually explore and push your limits in a secure space (the use of the traffic-mild secure words of red and yellow makes this even easier).