Golden

My random hard won advice learned from 12 long years of marriage to a king of nothing. Nobody had to die for that guy to claim the title either, but he taught me the greatest lesson I could ever teach my children, and for that I am grateful. He unwittingly taught me that our bodies and hearts are ours to give if and how we choose, and we don't owe anything to anyone just because we love them. Life is not like the movies, we can't love anyone if we don't first love ourselves, and slapping a title on someone does not make it matter more than the cost of the ink it is written in. Step, Mr./Mrs., Mother, Husband, Wife, Father, King, or personal savior do not turn anyone into something more than what they really are, no amount of love or adoration can make a hero out of a joker, and that's not anyone's fault, that is just a fact. We are all capable of change, we all have a vision of what we wish we could be, but just because we say it doesn't make it so. I believe we all have goodness that can move mountains, but we all don't know how to get out of our own way to save ourselves when we are faced with the hard choices. This is my reminder to the ones that want more and know deep down, that no one else but ourselves can give it to us.