Dear Jacob

When I told my therapist that my ex cut all contact with me post break-up, she sounded taken aback and said it was unfortunate that I didn't get closure from the relationship. For a long time, I wanted to talk to my ex to feel that closure - but was that really necessary to heal and move forward? I realized I was only upset at myself for not speaking up and not being able to express our differences. I shut my mouth because I was so uncomfortable, and I learned all I needed to move forward was to lay out the whole truth in writing. Here is where the relationship went downhill from my perspective.