Demisexuality and My Thoughts on it. Pt 1

My thoughts on demisexuality, as someone who is beginning to identify as a demisexual themselves.

Demisexuality. It still has that little red dotted line under it; the word is so new to us that it hasn’t even been put in the dictionary. Its so new to the world, its so young, not many people understand it.

As someone who had no idea it existed up until a few days before writing this, it took me article after article to grasp the concept. Not because it seemed fake, but because it was so me.

It certainly sounds strange, something sounding so me, But how can something you’ve never heard of sound so you? How can you know its you, if you barely understand what it is? Let alone what you are?

For me, it was like a puzzle piece that I found under the couch; the one that completed the picture I had been trying to solve for ages.
The puzzle with the lacking piece not only made me feel incomplete, but outcasted.

It was the one key to figuring out why I always felt different, and I why I never seemed to fit into the category of bi, or pan, or hetero, or homo, or A-grey. No matter how much I researched the terms and their definitions, there was always a tiny voice that just knew something about each one of those was wrong.

I’m heterosexual, yes, but something always felt strange about crushing on a stranger. My friends would always try to find me someone to crush on, and yeah, maybe I had a slight rush of attraction, but it faded faster than it came.

As I carefully researched sexuality, I came across something I hadn’t ever heard of before.

Demisexuality.

The more I read about it, the more I was just thinking yes! this is me! It was as if that puzzle piece that I never seemed to be able to find, finally showed itself.

Demisexuality is not asexuality, and that is the most important thing to note.

This is the Pt 1 of the full self written article because it was too long to fit, part two will have the same title with an added 'Pt 2'.

Thanks for reading,
-Q