Impatient Privileged

Everyone knows true love's kiss changes you, but the privileged are especially transformed. They change physically as well, and in the same way as their spouse. But what if your spouse changes and you don't? Did you do something wrong? Are you not actually privileged like you grew up believing? Are you permanently an outcast, raised privileged but not transformed? Will you ever reach your true form? Do you have one at all? Will you ever know?