The Gender In Me

They applauded when I finished speaking at the United Nations. They called me brave. They called me powerful. They did not know the girl I used to be.

Born in Lagos to a Rwandan father and a Burundian mother, I grew up learning one lesson early: being female is not neutral.

From Lagos to Kaduna to Kano, the geography changed, but the violence did not. Men touched what was not theirs. Silence was sold to me as protection. Shame was offered as survival. This is a story of a girl who was assaulted more times than she can count the letters of her name but refused to disappear.

The Gender In Me is a raw, intimate novel of fiction anf experience that exposes gender based violence, stolen childhoods, and the cost of silence. It is also a story of becoming, rising from anonymity to global advocacy. from fear to voice. from pain to purpose.

This book is for the girls who were told not to talk. For the women who learned to survive quietly. For anyone who believes truth, once spoken, can change everything.