Sophie's pain -True story-

Sophie

Off course I know now it was bad judgement of me to let her go on as nothing happened. But I really thought she knew if something really was not right.

She always has been a busy bee. She always went to school (grade average 7/8), never missed a fieldhockey training or game, always made all of her homework and spend spare time with her friends.

Also she spend a lot of time on her favorite hobby's playing the piano, watching series and movies and writing stories.

She can sit hours and hours writing. I told her she has to find out if this is something she can use in her career. She is really good at it. She is very shy and uncertain about it and doesnt really believe me. But I'm not the only one who thinks so.

Sometimes we talk about future professions and she doesn't know what she want to do. So I advised her to choose what she likes. But she says then: no there are no jobs in music, films or writing mum.

So she choose Psysics instead. Logical right?

Playing the piano is another example of a natural gift I call it. It was another accident that she had that made her go playing the piano.

Two years (she was 12) before all this happened she had injury on her foot. Docters didn't know what it was so she was adviced to stop hockey and her foot was in a cast for 6 weeks.

Because she was bored to death she looked on youtube and taught herself to play on her keyboard. And it turned out she was rather good at it. Within several weeks she could play different songs on her keyboard.

As she was not able to play hockey for a while I arranged a Pianoteacher for her. She liked it a lot. Every week she went to pianolessons and she grew in her play. She could play what ever she liked, the teacher would make the notes and arrangement for her.

As said she worked very hard for her school. Every day making homework and learning for tests cost about 2 hours a day. Just because she wanted to do the highest level with Latin. Her 2 best friends were going to do that so thats was she was going to do. She didn't want to be alone the next year in class.

Making friends was, and still is, not one of her best qualities. She is very shy and not confident of herself.

For example take her hockeyteam. Every year they mix ages in one team so there are always a few girls that are nice average and some less than nice. But if you stand confident in your own shoes and believe in your own competence you'll be respected for who you are and you can built friendship.

Yeh... right mum...

Sophie thinks she's ugly and fat and that there are much better hockey players in her team.

Its a real pity i can't show you a picture of her because its a really pretty girl, with beautiful thick curly hair (little spiral curls) , and beautiful brown eyes. A little sunlight in spring will immediately make her skin beautiful brown color, where she gets her littlebit mysterieus look from.

O no mum, are you insain!, saying this!

Let me tell you this: this unconfidence attitude is a very huge mistake of her. Someone that might be lucky to get her as a friend will be blessed with this friendship.

The perfect quality (herited from her father) that she has no prejudice to anyone and is open minded in opinion of others, results in a friendly loving companion for life. Always there for you if you need her.

These qualities a lot of people can learn a lot from. Even me,it took me half a life time to learn this (i had the good example in my husband that done me well).

Sophie has 2 younger sisters. One is littlebit on herself, the other one (the youngest)  looks up to her.

For most people it's hard to believe but the three of them are very close. In weekends they do sleepovers together and talk and laugh a lot till deep in the night.

As a mother I can't imagine more wonderful feeling that this gives me. They can go to each other when they have problems that they think they cannot share with me.

I think this helps her a lot when she's feeling down. Her sisters see the effect of this headache on her life, as her friends or hockeyteam doesn't see everything close by. They still sometimes wonder if it is all real or just make believe for the attention. I can't blame them but it hurts off course.

Her sisters are always there for her and understand when she's not leaving the house, is lying on the couch or in bed a lot of time.

Hope this sister love will never end because they will need eachother in the future.