Don't ask them to explain it if you don't want to hear them.
Don't ask them the reason if you don't really interest to listen at all.
Don't judge them with what you see today,but you should see them from Their past,then you can judge them with the facts cause you see everything, you see how hard they're to stand alone when there's nobody wants to comfort them.You will see how struggle they're trying to live in the next day without any motivations,how hurts they're when nobody's listen for their explanation.That time you can feel their pain,totally feel and you'll decide not to blame them at all.
